I know this sounds like a ridiculous question but I was talking with my mom in the car today and of course we got on the topic of getting babtized again. She told me that Jehovah holds me accountable for my sins regardless of wether I am babtized or not so I have no reason to be holding back because it won't change anything. My parents are the type of super strict jw who will shun you just for not being a witness. That's what they do to my aunt, she was raised a witness but never got babtized so they view her the same as being disfellowshipped. This is what will happen to me once I leave so I figured things might be better if I just get babtized and enjoy being accepted for the rest of my teenage years. Then when I leave I will disasociate myself and things wouldn't be any different than if I hadn't gotten babtized in the first place, I just wouldn't have to endure as much nagging and would be more accepted by the others at the hall for the time being. I hope that if I get babtized maybe the other witnesses will like me more and I can actually make some friends, even if they aren't 'real' friends at least it would be better than nothing. Anyways, what do you guys think I should do?
BlackWolf
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Should I get babtized?
by BlackWolf ini know this sounds like a ridiculous question but i was talking with my mom in the car today and of course we got on the topic of getting babtized again.
she told me that jehovah holds me accountable for my sins regardless of wether i am babtized or not so i have no reason to be holding back because it won't change anything.
my parents are the type of super strict jw who will shun you just for not being a witness.
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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Thanks I will try harder to think positive. Especially right now since I just spent the whole day being indoctrinated at an assembly. Every time I go to an assembly/convention it becomes more and more unbearable but I just try to imagine it as a test of patience and strength of will that might benefit me someday. :) -
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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Thanks for showing me! I'm not usually that into abstract but I like those horses. Horses are what I'm best at drawing actually. My favorite equine artists are George Stubbs and Marine Oussedik. I draw or paint basically everyday so I always have some kind of project but anyways I'm getting off topic. Thank you everybody very much for your kind comments and advice, it has really helped motivate me to not give up. :) -
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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I mostly like to draw and paint with watercolor or acrylic. I've done some sculpting before but I'm actually really bad at it.
I've tried to meditate before but it just makes me more anxious. I have a hard time focusing on anything even if it is nothing at all. Maybe I'm just doing it wrong though?
The only reason I've been allowed to do horseback riding lessons is because I've begged for years and years (my dad hates horses) and I only get to do them now because I pay for them myself. I think if it doesn't cost them anything and I'm not getting too close to "worldly" people my parents don't mind. But no matter how many hobbies I try to occupy myself with I still feel painfully lonely deep down, I just try and convince myself that one day I will find a friend that actually likes the real me and not the jw me.
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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Also I know it would probably be helpful but my parents won't let me do therapy anymore because they think its a bad influence and because it doesn't magically "heal" me of all my problems. I have started horseback riding lessons again a few months ago and it does make me feel a little better having something to look forward too every week, although they won't let me join the equestrian team because of course its " too competitive" and the other girls are "worldly" but oh well. I mostly teach myself art but last summer I had gotten a scholarship to go to an art camp during the day for a month which was fun so I'm going to try to get that again this summer if my parents will let me. -
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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Thanks I like all those ideas. :) I will check out this coursera, I also do khan academy which teaches college level subjects and some computer programming for free and its actually kind of fun. -
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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Thanks everybody for your advice. :) I know going back to public school would probably help me but its simply not possible. I tried high school for a few months but my parents took me out for having too many "worldly" friends. They aren't ever going to let me go back. About a year ago ( after they took me out of school) I had a major mental breakdown and spent several months in a eating disorder clinic and went to the mental hospital a few times for self harming. Since then my parents don't really trust me anymore. :( -
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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I appreciate everyone's comments. I do think she really wants me to be baptized mainly because of appearances, because everyone else my age (16) is baptized at my hall. My little sister got baptized when she was 11. I think she knows deep down that I'm not very enthusiastic about jw things but probably just wants me to be baptized so other people will still think of my family as being "strong in the truth" and to avoid suspicion. People tend to gossip a lot in my congregation so I have to be careful. -
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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Thank you everybody. I know I'm just going to have to stick it out until I'm 18 but my biggest problem right now is the pressure to get baptized. I've told my mom I'm not ready yet but she bothers me about it constantly. I'm starting to run out of excuses. -
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Im sick of my life
by BlackWolf insorry but i really feel like i need to rant right now.
recently my dad was made an elder so my family has been doing a lot more "theocratic" activities lately.
every morning i wake up and put on my itchy dress and stupid makeup and heels and then pretend that i love what i'm doing and that everybody is my friend when in reality i feel horrible and all the other teenage girls at my hall hate me for some reason.
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Thanks everybody for the advice. Pete zahut i like the letter idea, I might do it sometime if I build up the courage.