A guest- thank you so much for your post. I remember the 1st time I thought it was in my husbands best interests to push him. I sensed that he felt like a loser and people disrespected and took advantage of both him and his family. It pissed me off. I immediately did something about it and watched him smile in pride as he took full credit for what I really made happen. It hurt a bit, but, I shrugged it off to him being caught up in a moment where someone really respected him. That was what started this path.
I have asked him what he's missing in the relationship. He says he doesn't like any arguing or drama. So, I was very careful not to argue. But, it's like he gets bored and starts arguing when I don't in a very strong way. Not in a mean way, but more of a banter. And then in the next breath says how he loves bantering with me. Gives him some sort of chase. He just confuses me and says differing things so I never no what to do...