Um, I'm sure you know you're already in the wrong for having an affair while still married, and even you admit how you can see why your ex-husband has every right to be mad at you.
She came on here for support, not for judgement...
Sounds like you don’t get it.
You’re the sinner here. Put your head down and do your time.
What a piece of sh*t thing to say to someone. Go crawl back into your hole. You want to bully someone??? Then, bully me. I dare you... Don't be an a$$ h*ole to this woman looking for support...
To the op, look, it seems like you were in a crappy marriage and wanted out. Who wants to stay miserable forever? I hope you can let go of what happened and move on.
Ok, to comment on your question. If it were me, I'd switch halls, get reinstated, then print the emails, highlight the nasty things that were said, and have a mtg with them with copies for them and all the elders. Look them straight in their eyes and make them answer for it....