This has taken me days to read as it's so completely heartbreaking and hits so close to home for me. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I had complications in giving birth to my first child and was faced with having to make a decision about the blood transfusion. I had figured out ttatt but had it been a year prior it could have so easily gone the other way... It was scary, and I was very, very sick and had a hard time thinking straight.
Please understand, in those final moments she was very, very sick. She didn't know ttatt and couldn't think straight. I don't believe she had the thought process to fully understand the consequences of her decision at all in those moments and completely reacted in fear because she was already scared. I remember that feeling like it was yesterday.... I'm so sorry for her and for her precious baby...
What an awful thing to happen...
I'm so, so sorry....