Posts by cognac

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Thinking of becoming a JW.

by Kate82 in

hi,.

i am new to here so please be bear with me.. i have always believed in god, but was never baptised, my parents wanted me to make up my own mind religon wise.. i am thinking of becoming a jw and am just needing some advice on how to do this, bible study and jw beliefs.

also do jw say grace and how.. i am greatful of any help.. thanks.

cognac

Well, I think you have to get a little bit more of a plan in place. It might be a good idea to start a thread on things to do to help loneliness and depression.

Here are some ideas that I have done in the past to help me battling the same things:

1. I went to meetup.com and went out with some really nice groups of people with the same interests as me.

2. Exercise - That really helps with depression

3. Get something regular with the therapist.

4. Change your diet. Too much unhealthy food can contribute to depression.

Ok, that's all I can think of now, but get really active in starting a plan. Even if it's just one regular thing to start with to make yourself happier.

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Thinking of becoming a JW.

by Kate82 in

hi,.

i am new to here so please be bear with me.. i have always believed in god, but was never baptised, my parents wanted me to make up my own mind religon wise.. i am thinking of becoming a jw and am just needing some advice on how to do this, bible study and jw beliefs.

also do jw say grace and how.. i am greatful of any help.. thanks.

cognac

Hi Kate82!

Have you been to therapy for your depression?

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Did you ever shun people when you were a dub? How did it feel?

by oldlightnewshite in

okay, i don't know lots of people that were df'd, but of all the times i've encountered df people when i was a dub, they actually blanked me!

it was always something that i had fixed in my mind that the jws had dead wrong, even when i was an uber dub.

i remember several times when i used to arrive late at meetings, and i'd make a point of getting eye contact with the poor dub at the back sitting on the naughty step.

cognac

I'd always say hi or smile. I wouldn't go out of my way to make a phone call or see the person or anything.

I wonder if the JWs are as strict about it now. I've been talking very openly to a d'ffed girl when I go to a meeting every once in awhile, nobody seems to care. Another sister always helps her with her kids.

My FIL was d'ffed, there wasn't a problem talking to him under the, "mental problems" clause.

Then, a pioneer sister came out as a lesbian and got d'ffed. I reached out to her on Facebook. She didn't want to have a friendship with me cause she felt it would cause to many problems I guess...

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who has an october birthday?

by grumblecakes in

jw
friends

seems like theres a ton!

!.

cognac

I'm October 25th...

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My Dad Said He Loved Me

by cognac in

jw
friends

he's said it before, but, it was different this time.

his dad just died and i know there are parts about me that are the exact replica of him and grandpa.

him and gramp had a falling out cause of the jw religion.. anyways, i had the funny feeling that my dad has been looking at things differently lately, but, i know he won't say much cause he's in way too deep at this point.. he came up to me the other night, and said he really loved me.

cognac

Do you think there'd be any real benefit for him to wake up, i.e. would he face loss of other family members, if he were DF'ed?

Yeah, I don't think it would benefit him enough. He'd lose my mom and some of my siblings. I'm not sure he gets how bad of an impact it's had on his kids - exempt with me cause I just couldn't hold back AT ALL...

What's great is that in those 5 years you didn't compromise.

Not sure if you'd call it a comprimise, but, I took some real good advice here and just stopped talking about religion (except every once in awhile I need to rattle my moms cage, lol) and just started building relationships that had nothing to do with religion.

My 85 yr.old elder dad STILL to this day in all my 53 years of life has NEVER said he loves me.

That's really sad flipper. That must be really painful... I'm sure he does - just doesn't know how to show it. And you should be VERY proud of yourself for learning from his mistakes.

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My Dad Said He Loved Me

by cognac in

jw
friends

he's said it before, but, it was different this time.

his dad just died and i know there are parts about me that are the exact replica of him and grandpa.

him and gramp had a falling out cause of the jw religion.. anyways, i had the funny feeling that my dad has been looking at things differently lately, but, i know he won't say much cause he's in way too deep at this point.. he came up to me the other night, and said he really loved me.

cognac

Yeah, I just keep trying to relive the moment over and over again. I'm finally at peace with him and everything that has happened...

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My Dad Said He Loved Me

by cognac in

jw
friends

he's said it before, but, it was different this time.

his dad just died and i know there are parts about me that are the exact replica of him and grandpa.

him and gramp had a falling out cause of the jw religion.. anyways, i had the funny feeling that my dad has been looking at things differently lately, but, i know he won't say much cause he's in way too deep at this point.. he came up to me the other night, and said he really loved me.

cognac

I really think he's at the beginning stages of figuring it out. I wonder what he will do next?

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My brother died tonight

by poppers in

jw
friends

just got word that my youngest brother died of pancreatic cancer.

he was diagnosed in early august.

this has been really tough for me and my family..

cognac

I'm so, so sorry. That's awful... :(

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My Dad Said He Loved Me

by cognac in

jw
friends

he's said it before, but, it was different this time.

his dad just died and i know there are parts about me that are the exact replica of him and grandpa.

him and gramp had a falling out cause of the jw religion.. anyways, i had the funny feeling that my dad has been looking at things differently lately, but, i know he won't say much cause he's in way too deep at this point.. he came up to me the other night, and said he really loved me.

cognac

Thank you. It's been about 5 years since he's known my stance. A very difficult road for me.

I got the feeling he's changed his viewpoint recently especially when he was encouraging my husband not to become an MS, but didn't want to read into it to much only to be disappointed...

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My Dad Said He Loved Me

by cognac in

jw
friends

he's said it before, but, it was different this time.

his dad just died and i know there are parts about me that are the exact replica of him and grandpa.

him and gramp had a falling out cause of the jw religion.. anyways, i had the funny feeling that my dad has been looking at things differently lately, but, i know he won't say much cause he's in way too deep at this point.. he came up to me the other night, and said he really loved me.

cognac

He's said it before, but, it was different this time. His Dad just died and I know there are parts about me that are the exact replica of him and grandpa. Him and gramp had a falling out cause of the JW religion.

Anyways, I had the funny feeling that my dad has been looking at things differently lately, but, I know he won't say much cause he's in way too deep at this point.

He came up to me the other night, and said he really loved me. I looked at him funny, and, he said, "I don't think you understand how much I love you". At that moment I got what he meant. I said, "It's cause I'm just like you, and your just like Gramp". He said, "Yes", then cried and hugged and kissed me.

Nothing else really needed to be said. I now know my dad is proud of me because of the stand I have taken and he was asking for my forgiveness. We both got it. He knows how I feel and I know how he feels now. I have closure...