Omg, I am so sorry. My heart breaks for you. I completely understand your struggles and inner turmoil. I am so sorry....
Theres been a lot of good advice on here about Steven Hassan's writings in dealing with this sort of situation. Hope it helps...
Posts by cognac
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61Stranger in my own house, Since my wife and i don't talk much anymore nor sleep in the same bed. i feel like a stranger.
by goingthruthemotions inmy wife is shunning me.
she is always in cult mode, we don't talk anymore, we don't sleep in the same bed.
i have been sleeping on the couch.
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My mom
by cognac ini was just talking to my mom a few weeks ago.
she said, out of all her kids, i was the only one she didn't have to worry about as far as spirituality.
i always took a stand for jehovah.. she told when all of her kids were little, she gave us the option of not eating birthday cakes in school.
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cognac
I was just talking to my mom a few weeks ago. She said, out of all her kids, I was the only one she didn't have to worry about as far as spirituality. I always took a stand for Jehovah.
She told when all of her kids were little, she gave us the option of not eating birthday cakes in school. I don't remember this. Out of her 7 kids; I was the only one who never partook...
In 2nd grade, I placed 4 books in school, I wrote about JWs in my school papers, bla, bla, bla...
To my mom, I was so strong. In actuality, I wasn't strong. I was just scared trying to get gods approval. I was terrified of God hating me.
Anyways, my mom brought all this up. She said, out of all her kids, I was the only one she didn't need to worry about.
She couldn't understand why, when I have such a strong spirituality, I could ever leave.
I said to her, "Mom, I'm that same person. Everything I do, it's because I'm trying to do what is right."
She couldn't understand. She wanted me to confide in her.
I said, "Well, if I tell you, I could stumble you. But, I will say this, there's a reason I don't go to meetings. I simply can't do what I believe in my heart is wrong. If I need to be corrected, then I should be. However; I simply can't do what I believe in my conscience is wrong. That includes going to meetings."
She became afraid and said, if I really believe what it is I believe, and have researched it and I'm now taking a stand, she said, "Then, I am probably right."
I refused to tell her why I was taking this stand. Just that after research, it was my conscience. She was scared she wasted all this time doing the wrong thing and said that she couldn't listen to my reasons. I told her once again I wasn't going to tell her anyways, because I'm not an apostate, I'm trying to do what is right according to my conscience...
I may have wasted an opportunity to tell her why... Maybe I should have... Maybe I should just confide in her...
Ive tried to before, but, my mind goes completely blank and it winds up being an argument. Maybe I can write something, idk...
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What would you do if the Society Declares Bankruptcy
by Quarterback inspecial pioneers let go.
bethel workers laid off.
construction halts, what's next?
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James - Either way, they'd lose a crapload of assets before they could file ch 7 even, right? -
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What would you do if the Society Declares Bankruptcy
by Quarterback inspecial pioneers let go.
bethel workers laid off.
construction halts, what's next?
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Incognito- there's a thread that was just started on that very question... -
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What would you do if the Society Declares Bankruptcy
by Quarterback inspecial pioneers let go.
bethel workers laid off.
construction halts, what's next?
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StarTrek - I think there's a lot that would go to the internet, but only when they are personally affected by something.
If they were to go bankrupt, they'd have to get rid of so much that it would affect personally a lot of the r&f. I.e., having to travel 1/2-1hr to a kh when one was 5 minutes away before.
Just my opinion though, take it as a grain of salt...
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What would you do if the Society Declares Bankruptcy
by Quarterback inspecial pioneers let go.
bethel workers laid off.
construction halts, what's next?
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Stan - Most would be liquidated before they could declare bankruptcy. -
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What would you do if the Society Declares Bankruptcy
by Quarterback inspecial pioneers let go.
bethel workers laid off.
construction halts, what's next?
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Capps - Thats true, however; before the society declared bankruptcy they'd have to massively downsize... -
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What would you do if the Society Declares Bankruptcy
by Quarterback inspecial pioneers let go.
bethel workers laid off.
construction halts, what's next?
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cognac
"They are not going bankrupt. It's wishful thinking."
I disagree. I think they'd have to make a lot more cutbacks to avoid bankruptcy. Even Lett said more money is going out then coming in.
They do have a massive amount of real estate. If they make the proper cutbacks and liquidate a good amount of real estate, I think they should be ok for awhile. But, they don't seem to be making the proper cutbacks. That's going to bite them in the a** if they don't wise up...
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What would you do if the Society Declares Bankruptcy
by Quarterback inspecial pioneers let go.
bethel workers laid off.
construction halts, what's next?
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StarTrek - You are comparing this to a time where we didn't have the Internet. The internet, imo, would make a huge difference.
Also, if the society actually went bankrupt, don't you think it would show they don't have gods backing? I mean, they can no longer dispense food at the proper time at all... Idk, maybe that ones a toss up...
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What would you do if the Society Declares Bankruptcy
by Quarterback inspecial pioneers let go.
bethel workers laid off.
construction halts, what's next?
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StarTrek - I disagree, because at that point there would be no literature going out, the congregations would be sold or on the market, there would be no governing body anymore... I'd think it would be like herding cats... Maybe in some specific areas with the die-hards. But, before they go bankrupt they'd probably cut the missionaries and Special Pioneers and sell off a bunch of real estate, which will cause at issues with at least some of the die-hards and r&f before they even get to the point of bankruptcy.
However, there's a lot of other people who have said the same thing you just did...
Valid point, I guess time will tell...