Posts by Velvetann

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ok so who exactly is going to the memorial this year....and why?

by Cordelia in

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i am, my dad is doing it, i'm going to their hall theyve just moved there (to 'help' out).

i figured its the one meeting i can't miss as i upset them by not going to any others at all, also ive made a point of not going to my hall and i won't let anyone know i'm at my dads.

my dad is actually worried i might 'be apostate' about it, as i once said surely passing on the bread and wine is like saying 'no thanks jesus!

Velvetann

child of god

Are you counting time for that message??? I am sorry but you were preaching. We know what you are saying, and have been in your mindset ourselves. Now we are free to think for ourselves.

Personally I am not here to Bash JW's. I am here for support because being a JW caused me great emotional distress and ruined my childhood. I don't go into JW websites or out on the street and say anything bad about them. I just want to talk to people who have been in the same shoes as I have been and to compare our experiences and feelings. You have perhaps errantly found this site and obviously its not a place that is for you.

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Where Can I Find A Free Website and Free Hosting On The Web?

by BlackPearl in

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i want to create a website, but it dawned on me last evening, there must be places on the web that have free website templates and free hosting.

i googled it, and sure enough, there are.

but...what's the catch?

Velvetann

Black Pearl

I build websites and some people ask me to put them up on a free site. The free sites are very limiting, Lots and lots of advertising, pop ups and they limit traffic. Meaning you can only have so many people looking at it at one time and how many in the day. Bandwidth.

I am with a company for my internet and email and they offer free webspace. I use sympatico in Canada but Aol sometimes hosts free websites.

Nowadays its really cheap to put up a website and have it hosted. I use a company thats $9.99 a month for webhosting.

If you want something that is not business oriented or if its something small then maybe the free one will work for you. Geocities is free and hosted by Yahoo. http://www.yahoo.com/r/gc

Hope that helps

Velvetann

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Wisdom

by AllTimeJeff in

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i haven't contributed much in a while.

life keeps me busy.

for me, (and i only speak for myself) i have struggled with learning about myself since leaving.

Velvetann

Jeff

I feel sad that you and many of us have had to be in this position. I got out at a time when there was NO ONE to talk to and the internet was not an option. I thought I was the only one that had left the Society and had doubts. There was no way to find other contacts. I went through hell emotionally for over 20 years until finally over many years it finally wasn't foremost in my mind but it still haunted me. I had no one to express this too until a couple of years ago when I discovered through the internet that I was not alone and not wrong to have left.

Thanks for expressing yourself so well. Please know that myself and many others feel your pain and want to be there for you if you need to talk

Velvetann

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slowly unraveling

by chickpea in

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it must be memorial season!!.

2 car groups in 3 days have stopped by...... funny thing is..... i havent seen anyone aside from brief and hurried " hey, mate" in the various grocery stores, or typical places to run into folk you know for months, and more likely years....... so yesterday, they brought me the latest "insider" wts and after about 10 min of pleasant meaningless banter, finally got to the point....." it would be nice to see you at the hall".

my response: i have to tell you straight out, that we are all much happier and doing better without marinating in a doomsday atmosphere... we have to look at life in a way where we find different reasons to hope...... talk about a conversation stopper.... i am guessing this is where is starts to show up on the radar...... they were sisters of the fleshly type to one of the elders.

Velvetann

Welcome Spanteach!!!!!!

You should introduce yourself separately from this thread so everyone will know you are here. Just start new topic and say you are new here.

Looking forward to getting to know you

Velvetann

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Who lets it be known that they were once a JW?

by lfcviking in

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i am curious, for those of us here who have left the jw org, who actually lets it be known to people that they were once a practicing jw.. for me, this is something i tend to keep quiet because it is something i'm not particularly proud of.

anyone else feel the same way?.

lfcv.

Velvetann

Mouthy you are soooooooooooooooooooo funny. ROFL I would just love to go out with you one day and hear you do that. IT would be priceless. I am going to make an effort when the snow goes to drive over and take you to lunch and watch you be "mouthy" LOL.

Myself I rarely ever disclosed that I was a JW for over 20 years. I used to be ashamed of it.

Now I am not ashamed and do offer that I was one when the subject of why I do not have a career or higher education comes up.

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Dress & Grooming for visiting Bethel. scans inside!!!!!11 LOL

by karvel in

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Velvetann

I love this board, being reminded about the continuing Dominance and control this Society has over the followers. I look back and remember that I used to be so naive as to go along with it.

Now it seems so ABSURD. They are treating Bethel like its a HOLY PLACE LIKE THE VATICAN. Touring the place is difficult and for me I couldn't do it unless I had running shoes on. I hope they provide wheelchairs.

I visited the Vatican 4 years ago and they have dress codes but not like that. Women have to have their arms covered and no shorts. Men can't have shorts either but they do allow casual.

Thanks for reminding us about things like this.

Velvetann

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You Are the One that Approached my Tree.!

by Daystar Aldebaran in

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you are the one that wanted knowledge from me!.

oh wild woman, how much did i know.

you had your fill with adam, and then i showed.. you have your fill of men, .

Velvetann

I don't understand

Can you elaborate

Velvetann

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Do YOU Believe You Contribute Much To This Board?

by minimus in

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i'd like your thoughts, please..

Velvetann

I don't think I contribute much, I wish I could give back as much as some of you Give.

I was just thinking yesterday when I saw the Oompa post that I wish I could offer some help and comfort to him but I had nothing of value to say. I felt bad when I saw the Maddie post that I had nothing to offer her. It upsets me that I can't offer more even though I empathize with a lot of things that people are going through. Maybe its because I haven't been here long enough and I don't know anyone well enough. .

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Happy easter, long weekend, chocolate egg time...whatever

by LouBelle in

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hi hope you all have a fantastic long weekend.

well it's a long weekend here is s.a. (friday and monday) happy times.

i don't really celebrate easter but will definately be getting some chocolate eggs and having a family lunch on sunday.. i've been outta action this week with a pinched nerve - i wouldn't wish it upon my enemy.. here's to good times!!!!!!!!!!.

Velvetann

Happy Easter Holiday Loubelle and all the rest of you.

Hope your pinched nerve is better Loubelle and you can enjoy Easter Holidays with your friends and family. I had a pinched nerve for 2 months last Autumn...........terrible thing.

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So -- who (or what) is this "Jehovah," anyway?

by Nathan Natas in

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i've been reading some of the posts here, and i notice a significant number of them make reference to "jehovah" or something called "jehovah's witnesses.

although i attended the kingdom hall services for more than 20 years, i can't say i'm familiar with the term.

could someone enlighten me?

Velvetann

Realone...........tsk tsk tsk You cannot begin to fathom the complexity of the jw or ex jw mindset. You never walked in our shoes nor did you recieve the ABUSE that has been laid upon US!!!
SO DON"T carry on as though you are one of us.....AND DON'T YOU DARE THINK THAT YOU CAN JUDGE OR CONDEMN OUR ACTIONS!!!!!!!

Nomoreguilt

Thanks so much for saying that.............I just couldn't understand what was going on with Realone until you said that. Now it makes sense. I have been here a little over 2 months and was afraid to ask, there doesn't seem to be a profile for him. He sure didn't sound like the JW MO. Why are you here Realone, I am curious. I myself am certainly not into hearing about all this Jesus and praying talk for every problem and subject. I need something more practical than that.