Speaking for myself it took time, I also really did not give a rip in doctrine and i had been a regular pioneer for 10 years, I guess i had enough of doctrine. My husband did get me to come on this site and I did take a look and saw some light stuff and a few days later I started to post. Then I was totally away but the more I read of others experiences the more I could see this was not a small congregational thing here and there, this was major everywhere.
Soon after I decided to get "Combating Cult Mind Control" Truly that is the book that help me over come the fear of Armageddon and what if Jw's are right. It was such an eye opener for me. I might suggest if you have the book to discuss it with her chapter by chapter or read some at night in bed. For me I felt a peace come over me and all my fears were gone.
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