i'm new to this forum and look forward to getting to know you guys.. just a short summary about me, i was raised a jw, baptized at 15, married at 25, moved a few states away, started fading away about a year and a half ago.
started doing some searching about some long-standing doubts and completely sure now that this isnt the truth.
being out is still new and very difficult, but i'm making strides every day.. as i said, i look forward to getting to know you all..
Thanks again everyone for the welcomes,
Stonewall, I am in VA
No more koolaid, I am taking a couple of classes now and planning to transfer some credits (when I can afford it lol). I did go to community college and I absolute LOVE my career but I would like to get a bachelors degree at some point.
i'm new to this forum and look forward to getting to know you guys.. just a short summary about me, i was raised a jw, baptized at 15, married at 25, moved a few states away, started fading away about a year and a half ago.
started doing some searching about some long-standing doubts and completely sure now that this isnt the truth.
being out is still new and very difficult, but i'm making strides every day.. as i said, i look forward to getting to know you all..
He claims that he is trying to return, but his health doesnt allow him to get to the meetings regularly (which is true). He just got on the d-train last month or so, so it will be a while before hes back im sure.
i'm new to this forum and look forward to getting to know you guys.. just a short summary about me, i was raised a jw, baptized at 15, married at 25, moved a few states away, started fading away about a year and a half ago.
started doing some searching about some long-standing doubts and completely sure now that this isnt the truth.
being out is still new and very difficult, but i'm making strides every day.. as i said, i look forward to getting to know you all..
Lately I've been feeling like a big coward for not doing it until now, but I tend to be kinda hard on myself anyway, i think thats partly a JW thing too, always strive to do more, right?! I dont think i would have fallen for it either and quite honestly dont understand why anyone with any kind of common sense would.
It gets hard at times because Im 8 hours away from my family and of course ive lost all the friends i had before, so things get kinda difficult sometimes because i feel like im going through this huge transformation all alone, and no one really relates. im hoping this board helps to alleviate some of that. I'm on another board which is has been helpful also, but I haven't been able to find anyone in my area, so hopefully i can do that here.
i'm new to this forum and look forward to getting to know you guys.. just a short summary about me, i was raised a jw, baptized at 15, married at 25, moved a few states away, started fading away about a year and a half ago.
started doing some searching about some long-standing doubts and completely sure now that this isnt the truth.
being out is still new and very difficult, but i'm making strides every day.. as i said, i look forward to getting to know you all..
Hi again all and thanks for the hearty welcomes.
Lavender, below are some of my issues
I never felt that disfellowshiping was loving, its controlling and wanting to return to be able to talk to your friends and family has zilch to do with an individuals relationship with god.
I never understood the calculations that equaled 1914
Reading the real characteristics of a cult shocked me, the Jdubs point out that one leader, isolation and small numbers are the only things that make up a cult, uuuhhhh not so much!
My Dad always quoted the scripture about noone coming to the father except thru the son to prove that each witness was personally selected by Jehovah, but I was born into it and didnt have a choice, so what? was i selected in utero? lol
I wanted to go to college, didnt understand why it was not encouraged, SO clear now, critical thinking skills are not really taught in k-12, if they were, most Jdubs would be home schooled.
Not celebrating non-relgious based holidays (mothers day, fathers day, etc.)
Not celebrating birthdays (just had my sons first b-day party at his school, SO fun, he LOVED it!)
My dad always told us that worldly people had a hidden agenda if they were your friend, but we only got close to them to bring them in the organization, so who's scamning who?
My sister was not allowed to be in my kh wedding because she was inactive, but my worldly brother in law was, didnt make sense.
Jdubs are so critical of other religions and their beliefs but cannot critically look at their own and arent even supposed to entertain anyone who does criticize it.
My real catalyst was my son, he is such a little 'individual' and i couldnt rob him of that but convincing him that he needs to be and think a certain way in order to be acceptable/good. Realizing the truth about the history and doctrins has been eye opening. My sisters are inactive as well as my mom and they all know exacty how I feel, they don't necessarily agree, I think they still feel it is the truth, as least my oldest sister does but they love and support me no matter what. They feel that as long as Im happy, they're happy. My dad is disfellowshiped and still preaching to me every opportunity he can. I've told him that I need to prove to myself that this is the truth (which Ive already deduced that it isnt, just haven't told him yet) and he equated that to 'drinking lemonade with flies in it to see how it tastes'. (hilarious)
Anyway, those are only a few of my issues, of course there are many many more.
i'm new to this forum and look forward to getting to know you guys.. just a short summary about me, i was raised a jw, baptized at 15, married at 25, moved a few states away, started fading away about a year and a half ago.
started doing some searching about some long-standing doubts and completely sure now that this isnt the truth.
being out is still new and very difficult, but i'm making strides every day.. as i said, i look forward to getting to know you all..
thanks for the welcome all. No, he's still in, however I must say that its not as bad of a situation as I have heard from others. He's never been super involved anyway, could probably not tell you much beyond the basic JW beliefs, if that. He's not pushy at all and actually listens when I express my doubts about the beliefs of the organization.
i'm new to this forum and look forward to getting to know you guys.. just a short summary about me, i was raised a jw, baptized at 15, married at 25, moved a few states away, started fading away about a year and a half ago.
started doing some searching about some long-standing doubts and completely sure now that this isnt the truth.
being out is still new and very difficult, but i'm making strides every day.. as i said, i look forward to getting to know you all..
Hello,
I'm new to this forum and look forward to getting to know you guys.
Just a short summary about me, I was raised a JW, baptized at 15, married at 25, moved a few states away, started fading away about a year and a half ago. Started doing some searching about some long-standing doubts and completely sure now that this isnt the truth. Being out is still new and very difficult, but I'm making strides every day.
As I said, I look forward to getting to know you all.
