We've also started couples therapy - and my girlfriend knows about my attraction to the other girl. What she doesn't know is that the girl is attracted to me also.
i don't see how therapy can work if both participants aren't completely honest with each other. she deserves that. i was involved with someone for a long time, then found myself attracted to someone else, so he recommended therapy. i told him everything about this other person, because it was my moral obligation. of course, the man i was interested in stepped off immediately, and i lost him. i don't blame him... personally, i think you should commit wholeheartedly to your girlfriend, or let her go and explore the new girl.
i'd rather know if my lover wanted someone else, so i could dump him immediately.
~janette of the intolerantofcapriciouslovers class