what are your thoughts on them?
would i be a simply terrible person if i became one?.
.
Not something I would do...Mainly because it's just not something I would want done to me.
But for those who don't feel as I do...
Dang do you watch the news?? With all the friggin crazy people out there... his wife could be one of them!! I'm sorry but no money is worth having some scorned woman after you.
I know if it was my husband I would spend every second making sure his life and the mistresses life was a livin' hell! Yes, I have a little crazy in me
i text my little girls friends mum today as her daughter left some clothes (funnily enough, they were army pants and a t shirt, what ever happened to not supporting the army by not wearing calmoflage print etc!!!)..
i told her i would put them in a bag and told her she could call in for them whenever she was passing... anyway i just had my reply, hi, just keep them, *** will be out of them by next year anyway, so *** may as well just have them.
hope your all ok...x. so i take it thats her in basic words sayin... keep them cus i dont want to see you again and your apostate influence... i knew people would take this approach to our decision to not continue going to the meetings but i just am really struggling to deal with it without feeling like i have a disease that they do not want to catch :(.
I'm not going to lie, it's hard to lose all you friends and watch your kids struggle losing their's but it does get better. Get them involved in sports and school activities you'll make new friends and so will they.
Just give it some time and try not to let it break you..that's what they want. They want to see you broken and sad.
I'm now getting calls from some of the same ones that stepped away when we stopped going to meetings because they are now inactive and facing the same thing.
as most of you know........ i am from texas originally.. each year as homecoming rolls around schools across that state become 'frenzied' with various 'school spirit' activities ending with the wearing of mums (garters for boys) to school on friday.. i recently was talking to a 'yankee' boy and he didn't know what i was talking about (mums/garters or homecoming)......(blasphemy!)..
anywho it got me thinking...... is mums/ garters limited to texas/oklahoma?
(surely our southern cousins too have them -- right?).
Hi Ynot,
This is as good as it gets here in California..
are there pretenders in our brotherhood- as in all religion- that do what is evil?.
yes.. have we made stupid guesses about some of the prophecies, as all churches do?.
yes.. does our "organization" make mistakes- as, you guessed it, all do?.
I'm all for people worshipping however they see fit for there families. However when people are harmed because of how they worship is where I have a huge problem!
I have thought about going back, only because it would be the easy thing, it's what I know. Of course it never got past the thought, why?
I have personal experience of how this religion harms individuals I know if they treated our family the way they did after we came forward about our child being molested, how many others have and will be mistreated in the same way? How many lives will be damaged forever due to their shunning, blood issue..etc.
This religion harms people and I know this for a fact, so how could I think God is with them? I can't.
The God I know is a God of love& Justice I hardly think he would want us surrounded by those who are anything but, IMO.
what situation(s) got you out of the organization, either mentally or physically or both?
what was your "last straw"?.
The aftermath of what happens when your child is a victim of a fellow JW. Seeing the change in the attitude of the people we thought loved us was eye opening and showed me..God is not with these people!
you are sitting in your cubicle at work, doing what you are supposed to be doing, namely, working.. all of a sudden your boss comes over and starts give you a hard time.
"your work hasn't been up to par!".
"you've been spending too much time on the internet!".
Yup.. Been there, guilty of it, and have broken it at times.
today is my 2yr anniversary since being df'd - and my life has changed a lot!!!
this is a letter i wrote to my parents...i did see/talk to them in feb when i had my surgery, but of course as it goes, now that i'm 'better' - they are back to shunning me.
so this was sent to them both, so that they understood that despite all the jw bull ish, and how they are treating me now - i'm ok and happy!
Very nice letter
its been a long time coming but i kinda think im finally at the point of no return....... right or wrong, i have spoken to my 'friends' about my new feelings and the fact i no longer believe that this is gods chosen people etc etc... and have already been told that if i was to now celebrate my childs birthdays , her 'truth' friends would not be able to come to sleep again and associate with her... (she is 7).
this is despite the fact they are allowed to play with there non witness friends who live down the road....why??
the explanation is that their daughter would perhaps feel it is ok to do this when it is not... i ask why could they not just simply explain it is not our family's belief anymore (as my husband is with me on my decision), and my response is that it would be difficult to do that as we once were witnesses and now are not so it would confuse her daughter and make her think its ok to do these things now... .
Welcome Bez,
We went through a similar thing after our child was molested by a fellow JW and we stopped attending meetings. It was really hard at first trying to explain to the kids why they were not being invited over to their friends homes anymore or why their friends stopped coming over our house. After all it's not the fault of their friends.. it's the control of an ORG on their parents. If you don't go to meeting, no matter why..you are not considered good association and therefore your unworthy in their eyes!
It took awhile for us to start over again but what helped us was putting the kids in sports, music.. really anything that allowed them to meet new kids. Eventually they started making new friends and even started attending birthday parties. They love their lives now and they hardly mention their old friends.
We are getting back to being Happy and you will too...
Just give it some time.
i came here to learn more about the jws.
i ended up leaving them.
i learned to open my mind to opposite thoughts.
It has helped me to stop feeling sorry for myself. As I started reading here day after day, I started to see my horrible experience with the WTS wasn't unique. Many have been hurt, some even worse then we were and they moved on and are living life.
I know for us, we will never forget.. but if we allow it to control our lives and thoughts we are only hurting ourselves and our family.
So now, slowly but surely I'm starting to see my old self when I look in the mirror, That sparkle for life is coming back and my kids and husband are loving having me back
just thought i would post something on a lighter note.. it was our group's turn to clean the kh following the sunday meeting.
an elder asked my husband to "look at the toilets", hubby went into the toilets came straight back out, said to the elder "they're still there, bye".
he then grabbed my hand and rushed me out the kh.. i think the elder was too gobsmacked to speak.. hubby said that they want obedience and to follow instructions accurately and he maintains that is exactly what he did!!.
Very funny!
