i thought it would be good to discuss it to understand what caused some of us to exit suddenly, or some to exit gradually .. myself , i had been in 44 years , had mentally had doubts for years before exiting - but injustices by the elders and my doubts about the " generation " doctrine led me to exit suddenly one night before a meeting.
the elders pissed me off , i went to my seat, picked my books up and walked out - never going back.
so what is your story and reasons ?
I tried to do it quickly. I didn't have the guts to da myself so I took up smoking. For 6 months they kept giving me chances. I finally told them just do it, I'm not quitting!
If I had known that my kids, who went out with me and their dad (who was/is my ex), would go back to truth with their dad and at 18 shun me and cut me off, I might have tried a real good fade.
Hindsight is 20/20.
i am disfellowshipped and i have two girls who live with their dad.
all of them are witnesses.
my oldest is 19 and baptized.
Billy, you know they will say that is only if you live in the same house! I have found there is no reasoning with them. That is why I was never very good at the door. The householder could stump me every time!
Of course, they are not making me choose between my faith and my family. They have taken away my choice.
But at the same time I can only imagine the hell cantleave is experiencing, knowing it will get worse. Why would anyone believe God is so cruel??
i am disfellowshipped and i have two girls who live with their dad.
all of them are witnesses.
my oldest is 19 and baptized.
I did not mean to be rude. I am just facing this world alone-and by that I mean without my kids. All my life growing up as a witness I was told God is merciful-until I did something that was not approved of, then they were not so forgiving. My mother, father, brother and family, my children are all witnesses. I have no family now. What kind of God would ask a child to hate their parent? That is not a God I would want to worship-therefore I don't.
It is funny how they shun those who choose not to worship their way anymore, but they go door to door trying to get people to abandon the faith they have for theirs knowing they will be shunned by their old faith. Makes no sense.
Cantleave: I could not have just faded away-my family would have hounded me with no mercy. I think disfellowshipping was the only way out for me-sadly. I hope things work out for you, sincerely.
i am disfellowshipped and i have two girls who live with their dad.
all of them are witnesses.
my oldest is 19 and baptized.
I wonder why he is no longer an Elder? I am probably the wrong person for him to "preach" to about now. I am about ready to explode.
i am disfellowshipped and i have two girls who live with their dad.
all of them are witnesses.
my oldest is 19 and baptized.
I am new here, how do I find your posts?
i am disfellowshipped and i have two girls who live with their dad.
all of them are witnesses.
my oldest is 19 and baptized.
Why do you stay?
i am disfellowshipped and i have two girls who live with their dad.
all of them are witnesses.
my oldest is 19 and baptized.
cantleave: are you still in the organization?
hello all.. in thes spirit of another thread i read where the boyfriend was badgering our poster about the religion saying he wanted her to forget it and not go back... do you have friends that worry?
my best friend is always asking me... do you think you will go back?.
do you think its because when we were in we so vehemently proclaimed we believed it?
My friends (the few I have managed to find upon leaving) ask me that because my children won't have anything to do with me. They know how painful it is not only to lose your parents and your children, but to come out of it also with no base of friends to lean on.
My answer is always NO. Even though it is painful, even though I will miss out on their weddings and babies (I am bad association even for grandbabies), and they would miss out on whatever wedding I may be blessed with someday, I cannot live as a hypocrit and a fake like I did for 30 some years. It nearly, literally, killed me.
i am disfellowshipped and i have two girls who live with their dad.
all of them are witnesses.
my oldest is 19 and baptized.
I am disfellowshipped and I have two girls who live with their Dad. All of them are witnesses. My oldest is 19 and baptized. She does not come over to my house anymore and only talks to me about her health or education. (I managed to get her into college!). My youngest just turned 17 and I have one more year until she stops coming over.
My question is this, I made mention to my ex about being able to meet any brother my daughter may wish to marry because my father, who was an elder for years, was at one point disfellowshipped, during the time I was dating/engaged to my ex and the two of them never talked. My dad was reinstated one week before my wedding. He now says he had misinformation and that he could have gotten to know my ex ahead of time. When I mentioned to my ex about meeting anyone he said there was "new thinking". I did not ask him what, did not want to give him the satisfaction-he loves that I am out on the fringe and that they are all "his".
Does anyone know of any new thinking on this? Isn't who they marry "family business" and something they can discuss with me?
hey everyone.
i have decieded to celebrate my first christmas this year.
i was a born in jw and now aged 32 and having not been to a meeting in a year this is a big step for me.
I had my first Christmas in 2003. It was the first and last with my two girls. They went to live with their Dad so that they could be witnesses. My 19 year old is baptised and doesn't visit anymore. My youngest just turned 17-so I have one year left with her. I guess things are still a bit tough for me.
However, my favorite holiday is Christmas. I have a small tree (my house is very small) that I put up and decorate. I love to look at the lights at night. What makes a good Christmas you ask? LOVE. Spend the time with those you LOVE and it will always be great. Don't go overboard on gifts and get into debt-not worth it. Remember--LOVE-that is what makes christmas.
