Fader. Only meetings we have been to as a family in the past 2 years is the memorial and I don't even know if I will go this year. I sent a letter disassociating myself to an elder through email and copied that letter to all my JW's including friends/family about 2 years ago but my mom called the elder and begged me not to disassociate myself. So I did not. Just recently I even sent an email to all the JW's I know including an elder in my old hall attaching the letter saying how sisters were not to bind the elder book and even put a snarky message with it like "I know I am just a lowly sister but if you need help binding your new elder's book I will be happy to do so." That has not even gotten me in trouble!!!! I think they all know how badly we were treated and honestly don't even try and defend the society anymore......So I guess I am a very successful fader and I AM THE MASTER FADER!
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Are you a fader, Df'd, DA'd, or Still In?
by brotherdan ini thought this would be an interesting poll that would show everyone the backgrounds of all of us when we left, if we have.. for myself, i am not df'd, but i am attempting a fade.
i still go to some meetings with the wife to help with kids, but that's it.
no commenting or field service.. what about everyone else?.
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seperating anger for WT from my mom
by dogisgod ini posted this earlier under the bitterness post.
how do i seperate the anger i have being raised in the borg from my mother who forced it down my throat even after i left.
she justwouldn't leave it alone.
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I think what people are missing here is that dogisgod said her mom did not force it on her 2 brothers but shoved it down her throat. I can totally relate. I had 3 brothers of course 2 were over 18 when mom learned the "truth" but the youngest brother was only 16 and he was not forced like me. I think it would be easier to take if you could look at it and say well mom did that to all of us but no she cannot say that. She has to painfully admit that it was only done to her and believe me that is VERY difficult to come to terms with. It is hard not to be a "victim" or take it personally when it so obvious was. Maybe it was because we were females and they were afraid we would get pregnant? I don't know. I can't wrap my head around the double standard.....All I can say is hang in there. Maybe try and focus your energy on something YOU enjoy and focus on YOU. That is what I am trying to do...
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WT Society's Paranoia Over Spiral Binding of Elder's Textbook - Crazy
by flipper inthis letter was sent as an addendum to the elders regarding their latest elders textbook.
i think you'll find this interesting and also disconcerting as well.. to all bodies of elders.
re: spiral binding of shepherding textbook.
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Oh and 3mozzies love it!!!!
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My story
by whathappened inhi, i am grandma jones sister.
i have been a naughty girl lately.
i have missed an entire month of meetings and have no fs time for november or december.
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Welcome and thanks for sharing your story. All I can say is wow and I am so sorry you had to go through all that. Sending hugs your way.
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2011 district convention
by obarac insomebody know the theme of this years district convention or is still top secret?.
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I don't know either but welcome.
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WT Society's Paranoia Over Spiral Binding of Elder's Textbook - Crazy
by flipper inthis letter was sent as an addendum to the elders regarding their latest elders textbook.
i think you'll find this interesting and also disconcerting as well.. to all bodies of elders.
re: spiral binding of shepherding textbook.
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Aw thanks Flipper! Very SweetOh and Mary that is freakin awesome!!!!!! You just made me laugh soooo hard!
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Observation -- Posters Don't Seem Clueless
by Band on the Run ini'm impressed with sophisticated thinking on this site.
after all it is an ex-witness site.
i wonder what changed in the former witnesses.
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I don't think it is a matter of intelligence but rather if a person has thinking ability. If a person has the ability to think for their own then when they read the ridiculous crap in the publications it just does not make sense. It could be that alot know it is crap but it is just must easier to go own not thinking for themselves. As they say ignorance is bliss.
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WHAT'S THE WORST SCANDAL YOU KNOW OF?
by minimus insome here have been privy to certain scandals such as pedophilia in your congregation.
we have never had such a scandal in our area that became well-known.
one of the worst scandals i've heard was that of how 2 elders terrorized an entire congregation.anybody that disagreed with them, was considered disloyal.
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I know of two sisters who were victims of incest by their JW elder father. He was an elder in good standing up until about 5 years ago. He served as an elder at least for 10 years but probably more and he was a pedophile. His wife knew too. His two oldest daughters who were his victims left the "truth". His wife is still married to him. He was told he either had to step down or he would be removed. It only took at least 20 years since his daughters were grown when this all came to light.
Also after a major hurricane the PO of my congregation was in charge of the building committee and he had his rental home repaired first by the volunteers and nobody was even living in it!!! The whole congregation was pissed. Finally the society sent in a committee to investigate and nothing was ever done to the PO. He is still the PO to this day. The hurricane was 5 years ago. One elder was so disgusted by the whole thing he actually stepped down and quit attending meetings for a while.
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Australian Convention Pioneer family Experience - We found our vegetables in the gutter..why do they wanna be Martyrs?
by Witness 007 ina couple years ago district convention - a pioneer family with two kids explained how they had ran out of funds and had no dinner...as they turned the corner out witnessing they saw a vegetable truck had spilled some produce in the gutter and so "jehovah provided in our time of need..." i felt like yelling get a job you bum stop starving!!
not encouraging.
this week an elder with pnemonia discharges himself from hospital, promising to remain home...so he can go out preaching!
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I hated hearing experiences like that. Even when I "believed" they made me cringe and I would always think Jehovah did give us brains. Use your damn brain and get a freakin job to get money to eat. Freakin loosers! I really hated hearing the experiences of sisters who were married to an abusive husband (unbelieving of course cuz JW husbands are never abusive) ha who beat the crap out of her everyday, burned her clothes, burned her books, threatened her with the kids and because she took it like a stupid doormat he is now a baptized witness after 40 years of abuse. Woo Hoo!!! I literally wanted to scream at the top of my lungs on those.....
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Observation -- Posters Don't Seem Clueless
by Band on the Run ini'm impressed with sophisticated thinking on this site.
after all it is an ex-witness site.
i wonder what changed in the former witnesses.
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Yep it was forced on me as a 13 year old when my mom became a baptized witness. Yay me. No more cheerleading, birthdays, holidays and had no more association with my friends. I was forced to attend the meetings, go out in service and smile (or get smacked in the face) and hang out with the kids in the hall. Fun times. I just tried to survive from that point on and regrettably got baptized. As an adult I know that I would never choose the JW religion especially with how they view/treat women. I cannot even comprehend how my mom was attracted to the religion. The only thing I can think is that she was vulnerable and was having marital problems with my alcoholic dad.