As for the B&W thinking:
All I said in my first post is that I would respect my mothers wishes.
Then a few people try to tell me that I am wrong without knowing the nuances of my situation. It was not an argument that I was looking for. I just had a few ignorant people trying to convince me that I am wrong without knowing any of the facts.
Frankly I do not care what anyone thinks about my decisions, unless they know the entirety of my situation, and I respect their opinion. OTWO does, and I appreciated his imput. I am now done talking about it.
Let the know-it-alls continue on . . .