Mom is back home with me tonight:
Posts by JRK
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November Is The Cruelest Month
by JRK ini have been going through old papers and photographs since my mother passed away.
it has reminded me of some of the reasons that i really hate november.
this year has added to it obviously.. thirty-four years ago, my father passed away in early november.
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November Is The Cruelest Month
by JRK ini have been going through old papers and photographs since my mother passed away.
it has reminded me of some of the reasons that i really hate november.
this year has added to it obviously.. thirty-four years ago, my father passed away in early november.
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JRK
Ruby,
I brought her ashes home today. I will play it for her. It is going to be a tearful night.
JK
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Police Welfare Check
by JRK ini awoke in the middle of the night to banging on my door.
i went to the door half asleep and asked who was there.
i heard “police.” my dog was going crazy, so i slipped outside to talk to them.
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JRK
It is now over a week since the police came. The person that called them has still not contacted me. I believe it was malicious, and that I might need to get a temporary restraining order.
JK
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November Is The Cruelest Month
by JRK ini have been going through old papers and photographs since my mother passed away.
it has reminded me of some of the reasons that i really hate november.
this year has added to it obviously.. thirty-four years ago, my father passed away in early november.
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JRK
Flip,
I don't exactly pray to my mother, but I do talk to her throughout the day and night ask her for direction and guidance. During the day I talk to her when her favorite bird comes to eat the suet cakes I have out. Mom loved the wild birds, especially one little woodpecker she nicknamed "Skunky." During the evenings I have been lighting a candle and talk to it. I have not had any experiences like you have yet but would welcome them.
It is just after midnight here, so I too will raise a glass on the anniversary of your mother's passing. Except mine will be a ginger ale.
JK
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Talking to women
by Holden Caufield ini recently asking this women out who here has problems with women after being a jw.
i still do.
i will try to talk with with women..
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JRK
Holden,
I feel your pain. It is awkward asking people out, especially if your self-esteem is low. To this day I almost have to be hit over the head by a woman to get a clue that they are interested in me.
I wish the best in your endeavors.
JK
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November Is The Cruelest Month
by JRK ini have been going through old papers and photographs since my mother passed away.
it has reminded me of some of the reasons that i really hate november.
this year has added to it obviously.. thirty-four years ago, my father passed away in early november.
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JRK
cog,
I have felt my own mortality for quite some time. I have had serious health issues in the past five years. Thank goodness for ObamaCare, or I most likely would have preceded her on "the conveyor belt of death." My big goal was to stay alive long enough to care for mom until her passing. I knew that my JW sisters would just throw her in a nursing home and I didn't want that for her. In fact, they were pushing for her to go to a nursing home when I was going through my surgeries, saying that it was in her best interest. I am glad I was able to achieve that goal.
I did have plans for my future, but they were dashed last month too. So now I am free to do whatever I want other than that. I just need to figure out what the new "that" is now.
JK
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November Is The Cruelest Month
by JRK ini have been going through old papers and photographs since my mother passed away.
it has reminded me of some of the reasons that i really hate november.
this year has added to it obviously.. thirty-four years ago, my father passed away in early november.
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JRK
nonjwspouse,
I agree that making new memories is the best way to cope with depressing times of the year. Like you, I am not there yet, as I am still going through things that are reminders of her. Next year perhaps.
JK
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November Is The Cruelest Month
by JRK ini have been going through old papers and photographs since my mother passed away.
it has reminded me of some of the reasons that i really hate november.
this year has added to it obviously.. thirty-four years ago, my father passed away in early november.
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JRK
ttdtt,
You said "life often just seems like a countdown to death." That is true, but I don't see it as a downside to leaving the religion. I find it easier to deal with being out. At least we can grieve like normal people, instead of faking happiness in a resurrection hope.
A friend once said to me that "it is the conveyor belt of death." We cannot avoid it but at least we can grieve without guilt.
JK
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November Is The Cruelest Month
by JRK ini have been going through old papers and photographs since my mother passed away.
it has reminded me of some of the reasons that i really hate november.
this year has added to it obviously.. thirty-four years ago, my father passed away in early november.
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JRK
zeb,
I have had times in my life that death seemed to be lurking at the door. A bunch of my friends died in automobile accidents in my teen years in a short span of time.
JK
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November Is The Cruelest Month
by JRK ini have been going through old papers and photographs since my mother passed away.
it has reminded me of some of the reasons that i really hate november.
this year has added to it obviously.. thirty-four years ago, my father passed away in early november.
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JRK
Was;
I grieve along with you and flipper. I am a 61-year-old orphan too. I am doing my best to endure, but right now it is just concentrating on the next right thing to do. Baby steps.
Flip,
I am glad that you had the opportunity to talk with my mother over the phone. She really should be beatified as a JW saint.
JK