we all know that about 40% or more jw suffer from some form of depression.
we also know that a large % of jw drink alcohol which also cause depression.
therefore we now have some realy secewed up jw.
I was raised a JW and suffered depression in my early 20s. It was connected to my "friends" all getting hooked-up and married and then having nothing to do with me as I no longer fitted in with them.
I've got family members who also suffer from depression and I'm convinced that it comes from the holier than thou attitude that is so prevalent within. if you are constantly being told that you can and should do better then no wonder people start to get depressed over it!
i have just been visited by two local jws who had heard i had moved into the area and wanted to say hello.. i'm going to be having words with my parents later as they are the only people who could have given out my name and address.. they were ok with me.
i explained that i had been let down in the past by witnesses and that being a jw wasn't for me.
any idea what will happen next?
I realise that now. They caught me unaware - didn't expect a visit.
I'll speak to my parents tomorrow about it. They know that I don't want to go back and I'm really annoyed with them for giving out my address.
I'll have to be better prepared in future but the answer is I don't want to be a JW anymore. I thought that by moving to a new place it would be easier to fade - may not be so easy now......
i have just been visited by two local jws who had heard i had moved into the area and wanted to say hello.. i'm going to be having words with my parents later as they are the only people who could have given out my name and address.. they were ok with me.
i explained that i had been let down in the past by witnesses and that being a jw wasn't for me.
any idea what will happen next?
They were "regulars" but I suspect that he was an elder or ms. They were a young married couple who had been asked to pay me a visit.
Yes I was baptised but stopped going to meetings regularly about a year ago and then completely at around xmas. Was never a die hard JW but kept going anyway. got sick of hypocrisy with elders spouting rubbish about love when I never saw any in the cong.
If I ever get asked the question do i still want to be known as a jw I'll say no which means that I'm DAing myself. I really don't want to go that purely because of my parents.
Lol at Heaven! I think that may be the answer!
i have just been visited by two local jws who had heard i had moved into the area and wanted to say hello.. i'm going to be having words with my parents later as they are the only people who could have given out my name and address.. they were ok with me.
i explained that i had been let down in the past by witnesses and that being a jw wasn't for me.
any idea what will happen next?
Thats what I'm hoping for. If I get hauled into a JC I'll be Df'd which would destroy my parents and I'm trying to avoid that desperatley.
i have just been visited by two local jws who had heard i had moved into the area and wanted to say hello.. i'm going to be having words with my parents later as they are the only people who could have given out my name and address.. they were ok with me.
i explained that i had been let down in the past by witnesses and that being a jw wasn't for me.
any idea what will happen next?
Hi there
I have just been visited by two local JWs who had heard I had moved into the area and wanted to say hello.
I'm going to be having words with my parents later as they are the only people who could have given out my name and address.
They were ok with me. I explained that I had been let down in the past by Witnesses and that being a JW wasn't for me. Any idea what will happen next? They just left it at if I ever wanted to go to a meeting then I was more than welcome. No attempt was made to leave any magazines etc with me or anything about the DC coming up shortly.
i found it so interesting to see what information is held about you at the branch office, if you are or were an appointed man.. for instance.
name, address, date of birth, date of baptism, all dates where you have been an elder, ms etc, all the congs you have been appointed in.
s2 forms, letters of introduction scanned and available to read.
Interesting.
I wonder if its the same in the UK due to the data protection act. I recall we stopped using the house to house records the S8 when that came in as we were recording information about householders.
Although, after listening to some of the rubbish over the years I wonder why on earth they would mark speakers! Only proves its an old boys network when it comes to getting items.
i know- you aren't used to seeing me ask a simple question like this.
so- i'll start .
i am 49 years old, will be 50 in october .
28 but I feel much younger in many respects probably in part to do with JW upbringing ;-)
for me, it's not having a "normal" childhood.
being raised a jw will make you miss out on ordainary kid things.
you can't have any friends except witnesses---and only jws that measure up.
Not knowing quite a few members of my family because of DFing.
My grandmother never getting to have all her grandchildren (there were only 3) in the same room. Probably happened because we didn't have family xmas, we lived at the other end of the country and my uncle was not a JW.
The fact that my so-called friends all stopped having anything to do with me ater they got married - I ended up on anti-depressants because of it. I find it very difficult to trust people now as I keep thinking that they will do the same.
oh, yes those wonderful meetings for service.
for some reason, they are so long and disorganized and boring.
seems no one wants to get out there in the territory.. i remember in one hall when i was a teenager, a ministerial servant, about 50 years old, would conduct the midweek meeting for service at the kh at 9 am.
Not a meeting for FS story as such but more what happened when we were out.
In the UK the houses are much closer together than in the US. Usually, you would be assigned to work a street on your own or with another pair but on this occassion the whole FS group (about 14 of us) all went to the same street at the same time! The street wasn't even that big maybe only had about 20 houses all very close to each other.
I have no idea what the residents thought but I was completely embarassed (hating going out at the best of times) and even my parents who are very in and have been almost all their lives thought it was ridiculous.
i was baptized at 15 years old.
a brother toutjian gave the talk.
it was the circuit assembly.
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I realise now that I only did it so that I could keep my friends that I'd made. Was raised a JW but never studied a publication, never got asked about it by my parents always went to meetings, did talks, good girl really. Field service was a sham - made up my reports from the second month I was unbaptised pub.
new PO moved into the cong and cornered me about why I wasn't making the truth my own. Ended up studying with his wife and got baptised about 5 months later.
All i kept thinking that finally the brother I'd liked for ages would finally go out with me!
