There are times that my wife "submits" to my authority in certian matters and there are times when I "submit" to hers.
It would be silly to do otherwise because that would be going with the view/opinion of the person that knows trhe least about the subject at hand.
She loves technology and I am indifferent, so when it comes to that stuff, I "submit" to her view and opinion on those matters.
When it comes to finacial matters, she is horrible with budgets so that becomes my "job" and she "submits" to that.
In most things we are totally equal and in some things we are not.
I believe in equality amongst equals.
And we are not all equals.
There are times when she needs to be reminded of "her place" and there are times when she reminds me of MY "place".
Love works that way, our love sustains are relationship and the roles we are best at.