@Simon
"I agree. I was sympathetic at first but as time has gone on it's clear she doesn't want to help herself and she lives off the proceeds, so she's part of the grift"
Plenty of JW's do insanely stupid things. They for years will do whatever someone in the KH tells them if it aligns with WT. Deep down they're good people and don't want to do it but yet they do. It doesn't excuse what they did but it does allow for some empathy when they do finally leave. Part of me still believes for her it's the same thing.
Hopefully, she sees the light but I agree at some point it's not worth trying to defend or help someone who can't help themselves.