@ozziepost
The "JW mindset" only exists if you're in the cult. I've made this point a few times but when you can gossip freely even if you gossip nonstop you don't have the "JW mindset". When you can judge freely no matter how judgy you are you don't have the "JW mindset". All these negatives people try to attach to a " JW mindset" is just how people in the real world act. It's just how people are.
The difference is, in the real world you're free to do the negatives as much as you want openly and others get to freely decide if they want to associate with you. As a JW no one is given that free choice and that leads to gossip/backbiting in secret creating loads of problems.
In fact, gossip and judging on matters WT says isn't allowed is exactly what the WT says is bad about the world. If anything a "JW mindset" is avoiding those things at all cost.
I know plenty of worldly people who are just as legalistic-minded as the worst JW and had no interaction with the cult.