as the holiday season approaches, me and my wife (yes finally married!
) are looking for ways to celebrate the holidays, secretly.
i think we both would love to partake in them publicly, but our current status and relationships wont allow that just yet.
As the holiday season approaches, me and my wife (yes finally married!) are looking for ways to celebrate the holidays, secretly. I think we both would love to partake in them publicly, but our current status and relationships wont allow that just yet.
Any suggestions on how to celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas privately?
Thanks!
I've been checking the site for a few days now...still waiting...
did you all start getting the "full court press" from "friends" to start doing more things socially as you began your fade?.
i havent been invited to do a whole lot the last few months, but now all of a sudden i am getting phone calls and invites to do things.
fortunately, it hasnt been - "hey lets go out in field service" or anything like that since i would tell them to take a hike (which at this point means make myself busy at work or otherwise) .
I have experienced the opposite. The more time i have been faded, the more everyone that was a friend has forgotten about me. But such is life...it's hard at first because well you really dont have "worldly" friends to replace the witness ones. But it gets better with time...
i was raised a jw by very strict parents who, in my early teen years were physically and then later emotionally abusive all the while with my dad being and elder (and he still is).
i didn't want to be a jw then but my life was all about making my parents happy which started with me being baptized at 13. my parents constantly drilled into my head that most things were "bad" and i was "bad" i constantly did whatever i could to avoid being bad.
i had no life but then met a nice jw boy when i was 17. against my better judgement, i stayed with him and married him when i was 20. i didn't have a lot in common with him but he was really nice and was safe - he was a witness and even though i wanted to be in the world so bad i chose to be with him because he would keep me grounded, in the truth and away from where i really wanted to be because it was the right thing to do.. we were married for 7 years and have 3 sons.. for the past few years i've known that i did not want to be a jw even more and was sick of being fake.
welcome Jen
i've done a jwn search on beards and had some great reads.. i've learned the history of russell vs. rutherford and knorr and the hippies.. here's what i'd like to hear about.. either you or someone you know who grew a beard and the fallout because of it.. for me, i'd love to hear about the squeaky clean elder who decided to grow a beard and got removed because of it.. katie kitten, from england, on another thread told the story of her dad, the squeaky clean elder who grew a beard in the 70's and got away with it.. i don't think that would happen in california 2009.. anyway, what are your beard stories?.
i'm all ears.
(and my ears are freshly plucked.
I'll be honest, this is something that has bothered me extremely. There is no biblical reasoning for this whatsoever. It is one of those unwritten rules!
i don't cook so i usually eat one meal a day out.
i pobably spend a couple of hundred a week with food an d drink.
what about choo?.
We seem to do this alot...I'd say we spend around 150.00 to 200.00 a week on eating out...yikes!
mom and i share the same ip address for 2 different computers.
so, until i'm able to get an account of my own, i will be borrowing hers.
:d i won't read any pm's, by the way.
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Welcome to the forum!
both robert lifton and steve hassan list the use of 'loaded language' as a key element of cults.
every cult has terminologies that are unique to itself, and often the intent is to polarize the membership into a black and white language style.
the cliches of cultish groups tend to stop thought, or restrict into a a single accepted viewpoint.. this is almost never recognized by the members while they are trapped inside - but is clearly evident the effects this had upon us once we exit the religion.
Incredibly written...and so true. I too at times catch myself using the terminology with "worldly" friends...it's difficult to extricate from your mind.
OMG...
this is a direct quote from the drama, if my source is correct..... "remember, nobody can really love you unless they know and love jehovah first.".
it gives me an idea for my next blog, but i want to quote this accurately.
your input is appreciated!
Yep...that quote extremely bothered me.
