Thanks for the info so far! Some people on here have said that they sell the mags. Is that true? I know there's a good bit of humor used here and I appreciate it, but sometimes I'm not sure if it's a joke or not.
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How does it worK?
by greenie ini'm curious about bethel and brooklyn.
how does bethel work?
i'm told that no one gets paids and everyone's work there is voluntary.
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Do mixed marriages work? What about kids?
by greenie ini'm new and have posted something along these lines recently on another thread, but i'm wondering, do marriages between non-jws and jws work?
by "work" i mean can they be loving and happy?
and what about kids?
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Thanks Yknot. Sent you a PM.
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How does it worK?
by greenie ini'm curious about bethel and brooklyn.
how does bethel work?
i'm told that no one gets paids and everyone's work there is voluntary.
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Do you (or anyone) know specific examples though? I'm told that all the money is used to print the mags, etc. that they give away for free, and to pay for food, shelter, etc. for Bethelites. I know some people posting here have actually lived there, so I'm looking for specific examples. The second part of what I've heard is criticism for mainstream Christian leaders who officially get paid for their jobs as priest, minister, etc. Because of course that means they are only motivated to do what they do for money (please note the sarcasm on my part). I was challenged to name another group that sacrifices by not getting paid like JWs for the religion. I couldn't name another specific group, but could only reference monks who sell all their possessions and take vows of poverty. You all are right that this belief they're the only ones who do this that or the other is a real motivating factor for Dubs. So, I just need some facts on this if they exist.
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How does it worK?
by greenie ini'm curious about bethel and brooklyn.
how does bethel work?
i'm told that no one gets paids and everyone's work there is voluntary.
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I'm curious about Bethel and Brooklyn. How does Bethel work? I'm told that no one gets paids and everyone's work there is voluntary. Is this true? How can that work? It really impresses my JW, but of course I question everything. Thoughts?
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So confused
by greenie inso i've been reading this board for a while but never posted.
so, go easy on me!
i have a lot of thoughts, but they're not going to be totally clear.. my story: i was dating a guy, not long, but totally fell in love with him.
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Thanks everyone.
Black Sheep, I have a question. Can you tell me why you didn't ever get baptised? If it's too personal, I understand.
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Do mixed marriages work? What about kids?
by greenie ini'm new and have posted something along these lines recently on another thread, but i'm wondering, do marriages between non-jws and jws work?
by "work" i mean can they be loving and happy?
and what about kids?
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Black Sheep: I get that and I'm not trying to discount it and don't doubt it for a minute, but it sounds more relevant for someone considering having kids with a JW not one that already has a child with one, know what I mean? At this point, even if one day baby thinks Daddy is crazy for his beliefs, he'll still try to pass on that lesson, you know what I mean? So I can only try to mitigate those teachings now, or prevent them from taking hold. I have heard of situations where mixed relationship kids think that "that's just what Daddy believes" re: JW beliefs.
One thing I've been pondereding all I do get a little bit of a double life feeling from him, not as severe as what some of you guys have described or experienced, but it does exist a little. His is more that he doesn't tell people he's a JW. Like, good friends don't know; apparently I spilled the beans (I'm not so discreet). So, he's never ever hidden me from his family (I think he told them about me the first week he met me), and they know I'm not a Dub. However, I'm not sure if they know - if he's told them - that I have no plans to ever become one. His mom is very sweet and talks to me about goings ons at the Hall, brings Awakes over sometime, etc. and I just listen politely, but I don't know if I should say anything outright to her (it doesn't ever seem that opportune - it would be a little forced) or throw in a church story on my part. Soooo, for the double life element, it seems he doesn't tell his non-Dub friends that he is one, and he doesn't tell his family (as far as I know) that I don't ever plan to be one. Maybe that's to preserve our bliss? What do you guys think?
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Do mixed marriages work? What about kids?
by greenie ini'm new and have posted something along these lines recently on another thread, but i'm wondering, do marriages between non-jws and jws work?
by "work" i mean can they be loving and happy?
and what about kids?
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"Oct 15, 1996 WT regarding 'Unbelieving Wives' "
Does anyone know where I can find this?
Yknot - thanks again for your openness and honesty! I'm just feeling a little bewildered because I know I love our life right now, but I have NO idea what it would look like when/if he returns. From what I read on this site, it seems like he would be a very different person. And I have to say, when he says his JW catch phrases, he sounds like a robot. It's very bizarre.
SAColton - of course I wouldn't be ok with that, but at this point, I'm sure someone in my child's will say that no matter what because of who the father is - a JW. In many ways, I'm already in a position where I will have to mitigate those circumstances. I don't see how to avoid them.
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Do mixed marriages work? What about kids?
by greenie ini'm new and have posted something along these lines recently on another thread, but i'm wondering, do marriages between non-jws and jws work?
by "work" i mean can they be loving and happy?
and what about kids?
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Thanks for all the great info. We are going to go to counseling, so that makes me hopeful. At least we'll have a mediated place to talk about everything. Sometimes when he get into religious talk it feels more like I'm getting hit over the head with a bible than actually talked to. I'm learning that's one of the messages though, that JWs are right because they know their bibles and no one else does. I like how they can take it literally some places and not others. And in some places where they take it literally, it's not even the right meaning.
Yknot, I really appreciate your feedback. I had read another post of yours about making relationships work (you talked about fall carnivals,etc.). If it's not too personal, I'm confused as to whether you're still active. If you are, then does that mean JWs can be laid back (don't everyone explode at that comment)? You can PM me if you want since I now know how to do that. =)
While I'm at it, do any of you think there's anyway to convince him that celebrating birthdays are ok?
Also, I've got to say that I've been reading a lot on here, and his family really, really does seemed laid back and nonjudgemental. I think maybe his parents have mellowed over the years as his dad was an elder but no longer. I mentioned one of his siblings doesn't practice at all, was baptized, married a non-JW and isn't shunned. Do you think his family could be a special case?
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Why can a JW get a boob job but not a tatoo???
by cognac inthat makes no sense to me.
you'd get yourself in a jc for a tatoo but i've seen a couple of jws get a boob job and nothing happen... the hypocrisy in endless... .
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I asked my man the same question and he couldn't answer! I guess the org didn't always seem fair and balanced though...
What's the deal with vasectomies?
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So confused
by greenie inso i've been reading this board for a while but never posted.
so, go easy on me!
i have a lot of thoughts, but they're not going to be totally clear.. my story: i was dating a guy, not long, but totally fell in love with him.
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Hi Oompa and everyone else. Again, thanks for all your information. I couldn't reply immediately because I'm a newbie and ran over my limit.
Oompa - I don't know how to PM. =)