Thanks Mrs. Jones. I LOVE that personality description you posted! Its pretty stinkin close to how I perceive life/myself! Plus, I *have* always thought I am just like Jackie Kennedy Onasis. Lmao. Jk...sort of
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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I think its funny how some extroverts dont understand. Then again, I suppose I dont understand extroverts. I don't feel negative about it...I just dont see the point of chit chat. My hair stylist probably thinks I never get any sleep...I just sit there and close my eyes
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Jesus warned us about JWs!
by 3Mozzies inluke 21:8. .
american standard version (asv).
he said, watch out that you dont get led astray, for many will come in my name, saying, i am he , and, the time is at hand.
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Holy crap. Thats awesome
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"You're still allowed to visit, but it will be awkward"
by TweetieBird inthat was what my husbands mom told him after she found out that we were no longer going to meetings.
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Well, wasnt that gracious of her to say that . My father said (regarding if I were DF'd/DA'd): "Why are you asking if you'd be welcomed into our home? Its not like I could stop it. Your mother would never hear of having you banned from the home."
Jeez, thanks Dad.
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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I was VERY nice I PROMISE! My husband sent the dude a text saying that I really wanted to go to the county fair (lol, lame but true unfortunately). Six, maybe I'll introduce you too when you come out to visit....yes, she was kinda cute, though not my type.
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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The were starving and hadnt had dinner. We already had and the place we were at didnt have real food (just hummus and shit, lol)
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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Just to be clear: I dont emit a snobby persona...I promise. Well, I don't think so anyway . I have a LOT of aquaintences....usually within the business networking community.
I do feel a bit guilty because I know the hubby really likes the guy. And I have no problem hanging out with him sometime in our own neck of the woods in a bar that doesnt give you overpriced beer. I guess I was just describing a typical situation (which actually did happen), with the way I feel and perceive others.
In some ways, I suppose I am shy. Its not that I'm scared they wont like me. I'm scared they'll find out about the former jw life and about my family shunning, and feel pity for me...which is NOT okay.
Other than that, I'm pretty introverted as opposed to shy. I just wonder if my former jw life makes me more of a social moron. Who knows....thanks for listening
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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Ever since I was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial. To me, I was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy. I had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
I had a gay best friend who yearned to find someone to love. He always wanted me to go out to the bars to meet new people, but I preferred sitting home and reading, with my dog by my side. I felt content. He said, "How are you supposed to meet new people if you don't go out and DO it???!" To me, I feel like people are not just coincidentally put in my life. I have about 6 or 7 soul mate friends who I can truly relax around. They know about my jw past, and occasionally it pops up. We can talk about anything, or nothing at all....and its comfortable. Unfortunately, they all live in different states now, and our communication is mainly phone or Skype-based.
So now I'm to the point where I crave more close friendships (closer to where I live). I just feel like I can sense what a person is like from the get-go. Granted, you shouldnt read a book by its cover...Lord knows I dont like it when somebody judges me right off the bat. However, I can usually tell what a person is like after just a little bit.
Last night, my husband wanted to meet-up with a guy from his work....somebody who he'd hung out with a couple times without me. The thing was, the guy was with his ex-wife, whom neither of us had met. Me & hubby were already out and about when the guy texted my hubby. They wanted us to meet them at a posh little resturant, a place that charges twice as much for the drinks because its a 'high end' kind of place. It was just around the corner from where my husband and I were having drinks, and they parked right where we were. As the ex-wife got out, she smiled and seemed friendly enough....but the antisocial girl in me kicked in and I convinced my husband not to meet-up with them. It was obvious that we werent going to have any deep conversations with this chick, and I really didnt feel like being fake. "Hi! Soooo, where are you from? Soooo, how many siblings to you have? Do you like living here?" BLAH BLAH BLAH.
Its not that I didnt like her. Its that I knew we werent going to be long-time buddies and I didnt want to waste my time with shallow conversations. My husband came out with the "You want friends but you dont give people a chance" bit. To me, I work far too much to waste my play time, and I could sense that there was no connection.
On the other hand, maybe I'm just a bit sensitive because I've recently found out that one of my siblings is really, truly, shunning me (going on 9 months now) and has no plans on including me in the family's life. I'm very hurt, and dont want this layer of me to come out when meeting new people.
So what do you think? Am I normally antisocial?...or am I just a social retard...?
ps...I dont close myself in my home 24/7. I own my own business, go to many public functions, everybody knows the shallow part of me...the one who isnt crying inside from being shunned. But I'd say I'm pretty popular in my town. I'm a big fish in a little pond, I suppose. So is hubby.
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why do ex-jw's talk so much....
by bittersweet inso my husband ( who is a baptised witness who no longer attends meetings and pretty much doesn't believe any more ) asked me last night why do so many ex-jw's feel the need to keep talking about the religion even when they have been out of it for years.
i told him that in my case i still talk about it because i feel i lost so much of my life to them and i am still upset about it.
also that many people have lost families and livlihoods, etc.
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I don't talk about very often. But its on my mind a LOT. I even browse the jwn topics all the time still, and I've been out 13 years. I guess the reason it consumes my mind is that my younger sibling has been actively shunning me for 8 months. Reason being: we believe differently. Yet she encouraged me to 'do what I think is right'. I have not seen my niece in 8 months....a niece I used to hug and kiss and tell her how much I love her. Now she thinks I just disappeared...she doesnt realize that her OWN mother and father have taken me out of the equation.
I continue to read the horror stories on jwn, and speak about it occasionally with others in order to keep it fresh in my head that I do not deserve to be shunned. The WTBS instills in your mind that if you leave the jw's, you're leaving God. Truth be told, I feel like God becomes closer to me as I go further away from the jws.
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Just had two kids knock my door
by thenoblelodge inno not jws but lads aged about 10 years old.. they asked me if i wanted to buy an apple for 1.00.. coversation went as follows;.
me: are you trying to raise money?.
lads: yeah for charity.
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LMAO...this just brought back a memory I'd forgotten about! When I was a little girl, I was sad that I couldnt be in the Girl Scouts (Thin Mints Rock!). One day, I made some Terrible cookies, wrapped them in plastic, and tried selling them door to door. lol....somebody called my parents and I got in soooo much trouble.