I lived in another state for awhile, and I'm not sure if my father or congregation had my records sent to a hall near my apartment, despite the fact that I never went to a KH there. What happens to your records if you are truly inactive and most members dont even know who you are? Do the records get sent to Bethel? Are there always automatic copies sent to Bethel regardless? Is there any true way to make your records disappear?
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What happens to your records if you disappear?
by AwSnap ini lived in another state for awhile, and i'm not sure if my father or congregation had my records sent to a hall near my apartment, despite the fact that i never went to a kh there.
what happens to your records if you are truly inactive and most members dont even know who you are?
do the records get sent to bethel?
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I wonder if Sara has a jw boyfriend. lol...VIDEO
by AwSnap inlove it.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=er7-auminca.
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How do you *NOT* sound like an apostate...???
by AwSnap in....how do you *not* sound like an apostate when you live in the same small town as the family who is shunning you??
how frusterating and annoying.
i hate when peope ask about my family (especially if they know any of them).
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Nugget, good suggestion. Exwhyzee: I know it sounds fine. ugh. Point is, Im so annoyed. I dont want to be politically correct and protect their behavior. I cannot tell my jw's that I'm telling people I'm busy. Granted, I'm REALLY busy....but the core of the matter is that I'm being shunned and I'm doing the best to be an awesome person. However, I LOVE your last sentence and I will do that right this minute.
Palmtree : my antisocial self is doin pretty darn good thanks. I miss you and miss hearing from you This may be a good or a bad thing, but you're one of the lucky ones I trust very much!!!
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I wonder if Sara has a jw boyfriend. lol...VIDEO
by AwSnap inlove it.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=er7-auminca.
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How do you *NOT* sound like an apostate...???
by AwSnap in....how do you *not* sound like an apostate when you live in the same small town as the family who is shunning you??
how frusterating and annoying.
i hate when peope ask about my family (especially if they know any of them).
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I guess my question is "How do you not appear to be an apostate to the jw family when they hear what I've told 'worldly' folks".... Its just a lose lose. Well, regarding the jw's anyway. I love what you said, Quando. I am tempted to use that. The only problem is that I dont normally tell people that I used to be a jw, lol. Despite what jw's believe, it appears that NOBODY i talk to has any clue what the Witnesses are about besides not celebrating birthdays and Christmas.
I agree that chances are slim that the words wont get back to the family. But I guess what sparked me thinking all of this is that I have extended non-jw family coming from across the U.S. to visit us. I've been trying to get my jw's to respond as to when a good time would be to hang out with the extended family (whom they've always been fine associating with). But I'm getting no return emails, phone calls, texts, ect. I only sent one email a week ago and then left a message yesterday morning. Im embarrassed for my extended family, and annoyed at the jws.
So I sent an email to my aunt, stating that I cant get any return calls, and explained that I am not being included in the family. I was being very careful so that auntie wouldnt get overprotective of me and angry at the jws. I used cautious words so that, if it were to get back to the jw family, I wouldnt sound like an apostate.
FIRST: How can they (jws) NOT see how someone would be angry at this behavior? And if they *can* see how someone would be angry, it infuriates me that they will resort to calling me an apostate (ok, jumping the gun here, although I'm fairly certain one member is spreading that word around)
SECONDLY: I think I just dont give a shit about their feelings anymore. This is rediculous. I think I am seriously going to send the email and explain
why they are about to be shunned by me.
IQUIT: I believe YOU hit the nail on the head! Right on!
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How do you *NOT* sound like an apostate...???
by AwSnap in....how do you *not* sound like an apostate when you live in the same small town as the family who is shunning you??
how frusterating and annoying.
i hate when peope ask about my family (especially if they know any of them).
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Hmmm, thanks ruruj
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How do you *NOT* sound like an apostate...???
by AwSnap in....how do you *not* sound like an apostate when you live in the same small town as the family who is shunning you??
how frusterating and annoying.
i hate when peope ask about my family (especially if they know any of them).
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....How do you *NOT* sound like an apostate when you live in the same small town as the family who is shunning you?? How frusterating and annoying. I hate when peope ask about my family (especially if they know any of them). Im not one to lie, but if it gets back to the jw's how I really feel, then I'm an "apostate". I've been honest to those who've asked and asked and asked. Finally, I say, "So&So is actually not speaking to me and hasnt for the past year. They believe I'm not living the way I should be living, and its part of their religion to shun me." (Which, by the way, I am living my life as boringly and wholesomely as the next good person, lol. I am also baptized, though not df'd or da'd and I celebrate holidays...something that I am not ashamed of)
I seriously dont know how else to put it. I've thought of taking the high road and telling them that my family & I just havent spoken in awhile due to busy schedules. But thats BS. I'm actually thinking of sending an email to the family member(s) that is shunning me and ask them what I'm supposed to say. This is so idiotic.
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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lol...yep, my close friends are wonderful. They allow me to be antisocial around them and yet we're still friends.
I like that the personality test said I'm like Buddha too.
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Is it okay to be antisocial?
by AwSnap inever since i was a kid, my father would tell me to quit being antisocial.
to me, i was just playing with my favorite best friend in her room after the bookstudy.
i had no desire to sit amongst the bookstudy group and listen to things that didnt interest me.
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I'm sorry Gregor. I can see how that would be a problem.
I don't think its a huge deal between me and my husband, but I'm sure its a little deal. I never enter a party and act like I'm better than anyone...I absolutely, 100%, do not think I'm better than anyone. I think everyone should have a ton of confidence because they're all awesome in their own ways. Ok, I sound like that dude from SNL. But anyway, its true. So if I start talking to someone whom I know we wont have a huge connection AND they show a lack of self confidence: I have a tough time wanting to hang out with them. I don't offer compliments unless its genuine.
I remember at the meetings, they always used to talk about sincerity. "There's always a person who will ask you how you are, and they expect you to say 'fine'. But if you're not fine and you try to tell them, they walk on."
Well, I'm that person. If I'm in a tiny group with a limited amount of people that I feel connected to, then its okay to talk about real stuff (and I listen intently with a big heart). There's a time and a place for everything. I don't like big crowds, and I dont like people in big crowds who talk about drama.
I am very sincere, unless I'm in a big crowd. And thats why I dont like big crowds. lol. I hate to be fake and chitty chatty.
Now, enjoy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1MY7KURim0
Uhhhh, WHAT??? lmao