Asilentone, great advice, and definitely something I plan on doing!
I've already got some women telling me their horror stories. I suppose I'm just listening as though it can happen, not that it necessarily will happen. I am a little surprised at some of the comments I've received so far. Some people just lack filtering skills. When my jw sister was pregnant, I was shocked that other jdubs would say things like "Oh, you're so brave. We wouldnt DARE have a baby in this system of things"