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  Lost but now found : This site and update on life

  by Louise in

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  2. friends

  i have been searching for this for ages.

  it just seemed to have fallen off the net or was down in south africa - couldn't find links or anything.

  was really weird.. the site looks clean, i miss the old site however.

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  Fernando

  Good on you Louise, it sounds as if life in South Africa is increasingly challenging for white and black alike.

  Greetings

  Fernando
  
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  JW child taken out of hospital - now cured of cancer

  by Xanthippe in

  1. social
  2. current

  jw child cured according to bbc this morning.

  if you remember the child's parents took him out of the southampton, uk hospital against the doctors' advice to have proton beam therapy for his brain tumour in prague.

  interesting follow-up article..

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  Arrested for choosing an alternative therapy?

  Something very wrong with those who saw the parents' choice, free will, and informed consent, as criminal and chose to hound them in their darkest hour.

  Well done to the parents for how they conducted themselves.

  Maybe the parents should sue for malicious and wrongful arrest, along with gross incompetence?
  
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  Dating After Leaving?

  by Garrett in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hey guys,.

  this is going to be a topic of a different nature.

  so, while i am not looking to date at the current moment since i'm still trying to figure out who i am and what i want life, i do want to start dating in the near future.. my issue is that i've been in for almost all my life and it's left a big hole when it comes to my romantic life.. i was wondering, after leaving, did any of you date?

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  Fernando

  As you are saying, once you have established a new identity, dating will be much easier.

  In the meantime just friends?

  For me personally spiritual identity is the most important, and other differences less so.
  
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  JW's caught laughing at Child rapist accusers"

  by Newly Enlightened in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  jwvictims has done an excellent but disturbing article on how jw's feel about the child abuse problem.. http://jwvictims.org/2013/11/23/jehovahs-witnesses-caught-laughing-at-child-rape-accusers/.

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  Fernando

  The

  JW

  VICTIMS

  .ORG

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  is a keeper.

  http://jwvictims.org/flyers-publications/
  
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  15 Years of Jehovahs-Witness.com

  by Simon in

  1. forum
  2. announcements

  yes, today is the forum's 15th birthday!.

  i never thought for one moment that it would survive this long or have so many people post so many great subjects over the years.. it is still humbling when i get pm's or emails from people expressing how the site has helped them and of course thanks goes to all the posters who have shared their experiences and make helpful and supportive comments to others who are in the sometimes difficult process of learning the real truth about 'the truth'.. the site has gone through several different incarnations over the last 15 years running on different platforms, different databases and different hosts but we've been able to keep all the old topics.

  the current site is still being developed and i'm hoping to push another major upgrade soon.. i also may have some other news to share soon about the future of the site so stay posted.. until then, here's the the next 15 years!

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  Fernando

  Happy birthday, and a big thank you to Simon and family for this enduring labour of love, that generously serves thousands without a Watchtower agenda (glory, power, control, authority, money, property, worship).

  Thank you for a safe space where we can journey with others whilst restoring our sanity.

  Long live JWC.
  
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  Is the Watchtower is blind to Jesus' teachings?

  by Fernando in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  jesus ate with common sinners declaring that they were in (matt 21:31).. jesus denounced religious leaders declaring that they were out (matt 23 esp v15).. still the watchtower persists in making their own determinations, according to their own rules, who is in and who is out (prov 17:15).

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  this is why the apostate watchtower ruling religious clergy class and hierarchy surreptitiously and contemptuously hate and obfuscate the unabridged gospel which teaches that a right and clean standing is imputed on the basis of grace (faith) and not merit (works).. are their similar instances that come to mind for you?.

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  Great examples Vidiot. Keep them coming if you can.
  

  Some might say though that "filtered" is a kind euphemism for "twisted".
  
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  Road to Recovery

  by vinman in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am totally new to this.

  i was raised as a jehovah's witness.

  i made it my own at the age of 5. i was a "true believer ".

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  Fernando

  Welcome vinman.

  Our family was introduced to the transformative and liberating unabridged gospel of grace at the end of 2005.

  This remains our preoccupation and passion to this date.

  We walked out for good mid-2009 and now identify as SBNR (Spiritual But Not Religious).

  It took around 3 to 4 years after quitting the Watchtower to largely get over the exJW preoccupation.

  Blessings

  Fernando

  PS - Many here suggest and have found that questions work best with family members as it gives them the opportunity to make up their own minds and come to their own conclusions (a luxury you yourself have now enjoyed). Praying about the right questions to ask is priority. Many here can also suggest questions. My bias is toward questions related to the "Good News" or gospel in the Watchtower's own publications. For example: what is the "plan of salvation". Please feel free to PM me if you'd like to chat further.
  
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  Is the Watchtower is blind to Jesus' teachings?

  by Fernando in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  jesus ate with common sinners declaring that they were in (matt 21:31).. jesus denounced religious leaders declaring that they were out (matt 23 esp v15).. still the watchtower persists in making their own determinations, according to their own rules, who is in and who is out (prov 17:15).

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  this is why the apostate watchtower ruling religious clergy class and hierarchy surreptitiously and contemptuously hate and obfuscate the unabridged gospel which teaches that a right and clean standing is imputed on the basis of grace (faith) and not merit (works).. are their similar instances that come to mind for you?.

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  Fernando

  Jesus ate with common sinners declaring that they were IN (Matt 21:31).

  Jesus denounced religious leaders declaring that they were OUT (Matt 23 esp v15).

  Still the Watchtower persists in making their own determinations, according to their own rules, who is IN and who is OUT (Prov 17:15).

  This is why the apostate Watchtower ruling religious clergy class and hierarchy surreptitiously and contemptuously hate and obfuscate the unabridged gospel which teaches that a right and clean standing is IMPUTED on the basis of grace (faith) and not merit (works).
  

  Are their similar instances that come to mind for you?
  
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  Why do I suddenly want to start reading JW literature and going to Kingdom Halls?

  by yogosans14 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  is good calling me back or am i just letting my emotions get the best of me?also i really want to be closer to my jw family.

  btw i was never baptized and i consider myself a born again christian i go to a baptist church and wath televangelist and i have expirenced gods presence like never before but sometimes i get fearful and think "what if jws are right and i'm wrong" than i'm screwed!but if there wrong and i'm right it doesn't look to good for them.. i would prefer if nobody posted "god isn't real" type comments.

  i truly believe he is real but i respect why some are atheists..

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  Fernando

  Dear yogosans14

  A relentless pursuit of the "unabridged gospel" has give our family a lot of clarity and peace in this space.

  Once you are thoroughly intimate with the whole gospel, especially according to Paul, you will see clearly how deviant and devious the Watchtower is.

  Then, and only then, ask any JW a couple of questions:

  • Are you a "publisher of the Good News"?
  • For how many years now?
  • Please explain the "Good News" according to Paul, from your heart?
  • Please explain what the gospel is in one word?

  In short, the gospel according to Paul, Moses, Isaiah and Psalms is not in their hearts, nor on their lips. This is not by accident, but by design.
  

  Drop me a PM if I can be of any further help.

  Blessings

  Fernando
  
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  Separated from a loveless Marriage

  by PLAYGROUND in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i don't know where to start.

  i got married a year and half ago.

  some months into the marriage things where discovered.

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  Fernando

  Sorry for the difficulties you and your partner are experiencing PLAYGROUND.
  

  A good Psychologist will explain that sometimes some of our stress and anxiety is caused by "cognitive dissonance".

  This occurs when there is a conflict between our behaviour and our beliefs.

  You may have been taught a set of so-called "absolute" beliefs which are shaping your worldview. Sometimes such beliefs are truly unhelpful.

  You are not in trouble with Jehovah unless you are a Pharisee (read Matt 23).

  God does not expect you to remain in an abusive relationship that has no prospects.
  

  So how does one become like the Boroeans: willing and able to examine our beliefs, and make adjustments?

  CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) can be very helpful.

  Personally I also found Bible study very helpful - specifically on the "Good News" according to Paul (especially in the book of Romans, and especially how a right standing with God cannot be earned, deserved or paid for, but is instead IMPUTED to those who believe and follow Jesus instead of Pharisees).