My therapist and I are working on my 'emotionally' NOT being so closed-off...and of course the topic of relationships came up. She asked me about the men who have been in my life, and I was going through the significant guys that I've dated. Either way, the conversation then turned to how the guy I'm with NOW is special in my life (and has been for years) and the therapist suggested that I read this book to understand what TRUE 'soulmates' are - so I'm sharing the excerpt with you guys! I think this explaination is really DEEP ...
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Society's Misconception of Soulmates...
by babygirl30 inmy therapist and i are working on my 'emotionally' not being so closed-off...and of course the topic of relationships came up.
she asked me about the men who have been in my life, and i was going through the significant guys that i've dated.
either way, the conversation then turned to how the guy i'm with now is special in my life (and has been for years) and the therapist suggested that i read this book to understand what true 'soulmates' are - so i'm sharing the excerpt with you guys!
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Nine year old baptized
by EmptyInside inthis weekend at the circuit assembly, (i stayed home, thank goodness), i heard a nine year -old girl was baptized.
and she seems a bit mature for her age, but hardly mature enough,in my opinion, to make such a choice on her own.
it seems to be a trend in our circuit right now.
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You are not allowed to vote, smoke, drink alchohol, marry, drive, or sign binding contracts till the age of 18-21 (well, driving at 16). But you can commit your life to a God and a religion and be held responsible for that act at the age of 9. Or 8. Or, like me at 10. Makes no sense. :)
changeling YOU nailed it!!!!! That is exactly what I have expressed to my own parents when they accuse me of not living up to my 'dedication'...HOW can I be held responsible for a dedication I made at 14? All I cared about was school, homework, computers (I was a geek), my braces, getting contacts, starting high school, and boys. I could marry, I couldn't buy or drink liquor, I couldn't buy a house or drive a car - BUT I was considered 'qualified' to DEDICATE my life to a religion and expected to stick to that no matter what??? HUH?????
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From Jon, My Brother
by AllTimeJeff ini had a brother.
his name was jon.. jon was a sweet, super sensitive guy.
also, a very tortured soul.
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This post made me BAWL.....I mean, it doesn't get anymore heartfelt then this!!!!
AllTimeJeff you honestly inspired ME to write my own parents a 'letter' telling them how much I love and care for them even though they choose to shun me and not be a part of my life. THANK YOU!
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Would You Have Remained A Witness If They Weren't Sooo Strict?
by minimus ini think i would've probably tolerated the religion if "conscience" really did play a role in the religion.
there are many people in religions that do not believe every thing that is taught, yet they are still members in good standing.
of course, jehovah's witnesses aren't like that.. you have to believe it all or you will be "no longer considered a jehovah's witness".
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I was JUST thinking about this...good question!
Had I NOT been DF'd, it's SCAREY to think that I would still be living a 'double-life' as a JW...afraid to leave because of what it would cost me (my family, friends, life as I knew it). As things go, lost ALL of that anyways - but it's been THE best thing yet.
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An old friend of mine was deleted as an elder... you're gonna love why!
by JimmyPage init seems my friend stepped in to help his daughter out of an abusive relationship with her boyfriend.
the crime?
his daughter is disfellowshipped.
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An elder in the cong I used to attend had to 'step down' because his daughter (who was DF'd) was in dire need of a place to LIVE...after being assaulted by her husband. They told him that IF he were to have her move in with him he would HAVE to give up his position as an elder. I personally think that's SICKENING!!!
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why i wept bitterly in front of two elders......
by oompa innot sure if i ever shared this...but have seen several "sharing" threads here lately and it motivated me..... when i met with the co and po about some doubts and an important question....and when i got the co's answer.....i could not speak....i put my head down and just started crying...not sobbing cause i fought it back...finally the only words to come out were..."i am going to have to leave my wife and son"....and they were like wtf?...but in jw lingo of course.
see i knew in that instant...that very moment....that i had been lied to my entire life...and my stack of doubts i had been piling on the shelf and waiting on jehovah were all valid....and i knew i would never fit in again...not even with my wife and son...that i would never be the spiritual head they needed and wanted.....that was almost 4 years ago...man time flies...and yep...now i am separated from my jw wife...and yep...i did not fit in...not even with her...and my son is older now and moved out but we are not close.
btw...i had printed out all 12 places in rev.
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thats right newbies.....the name jehovah is NOT EVEN IN the new testament/greek scriptures....not even once...now i like to say..."we dragged the god of the jews kicking and screaming into christianity
Now THAT makes me cry! But thanks for sharing ... I NEED to see this type of stuff to keep the 'guilt' down. Cause there are days that I really get angry over all the 'lies' and how I was forced to join a religion that I knew NOTHING about. Now that I DO know better and am learning more about it, I can see how people's worlds as they believed (the belief system we had been fed) causes they to just break down!!!!! <<HUGS>> oompa
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The Day I had an Epiphany
by journey-on inmy eyes opened in more ways than one.
as i lay in bed that sunday morning, i knew i was never again going to rise hurriedly to get myself and the kids dressed and fed for field service.
i was actually feeling relieved and wanted to just turn over and go back to sleep, certain and content in my decision.. the day before, i had stood at the end of the block, after working a territory filled with barking dogs and people sleeping in after a hard days work week, and thinking, "never again".
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My lightbulb 'moment' was when I was working on 2 Regional Building Committees - so I would literally work 40hr during the week, and then give up EVERY weekend to work at a 'site' either building a KHall or remodeling one. Because of that, I was rarely in FS or at my Sun mtgs, and on my time slip I would account for all the hrs I was on a Khall site. An elder pulled me to the side and told me that I had to 'renew' my application for RBC and that it would probably be denied because I had NO time in service and wasn't regular at ALL mtgs.
HUH?????????????????????????????????? That was when things started unravelling for me. Slowly, of course, but they did.
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Even though I'm OUT of the JWs - I still feel a lil guilty! (help)
by babygirl30 inout of all the 'friends' i had while in the jws, only a few (4) still have contact with me - 2 of them being very close to me to this day.
one of these girls is about 6yrs older then me, so she has always been my 'big sis' so to speak!
anyhow she and her mom are jws and they live together, but are very 'relaxed' in their stance against me in that when i go out of town (which is on a regular basis) my gf will stay at my place to #1-get my mail, and #2-get a break from being up under her mom everyday!
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I KNOW...it is weird! - hahahahaha, I don't deny it!
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Odd CO talk...ever hear anything like this?
by sir82 inhad our co visit last month.
normally the guy has all the charisma and charm of ben stein from "ferris buhler's day off", but he managed to give a talk that was actually coherent one night.. here is the rough outline:.
the theme was about the difference between "justice", "mercy", and "undeserved kindness".. situation 1: adam and eve sinned.
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Wrong. The Biblical account is quite clear: God had already made up his mind that EVERYONE save Noah and family was to die. It never said God told Noah to preach a single thing, and it never said Noah preached a single thing. Even if he did, what would be the message? "You are all going to die. God says so. So there." What good would preaching something like that do? Nothing!
THAt is the stuff that makes me cry...because it's yet ANOTHER reminder that I grew up in a 'bubble' of false information and BELIEVED it all those years! It really is like the rug getting pulled right out from under me.
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Even though I'm OUT of the JWs - I still feel a lil guilty! (help)
by babygirl30 inout of all the 'friends' i had while in the jws, only a few (4) still have contact with me - 2 of them being very close to me to this day.
one of these girls is about 6yrs older then me, so she has always been my 'big sis' so to speak!
anyhow she and her mom are jws and they live together, but are very 'relaxed' in their stance against me in that when i go out of town (which is on a regular basis) my gf will stay at my place to #1-get my mail, and #2-get a break from being up under her mom everyday!
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Tea drinker - Thank you for making me feel BETTER about it! It makes me angry that I STILL hold ono these lil 'guilt' feelings that I really have no reason to anymore...I'm not a JW....haven't been a JW....don't believe in the org anymore. So to feel THIS guilty about it is weird to me. I'm at peace knowing my beliefs have changed and that I am free to do as I please - but my friend isn't, and so I have this awkward feeling of involuntarily messing her up - I guess is the term? I just don't want that weight on MY shoulders....
nugget - ur right, she's an adult!!! What she does is on HER...it's just like you said, the 'conditioning' is still VERY deep in me (only been out lil over 1yr) and it's just frustrating that tidbits of my past beliefs come creeping up out of nowhere!
LittleSister - honestly, the most SECURE friendships/relationships that I've formed have all been OUT of the org!!! It's the weirdest thing to explain to people how all the pics I had all over my house of 'friends'....are people that NO longer talk to me at all - because I am NOT a JW anymore. They just wrinkle up their faces in disbelief!! So congratulations on finding YOUR 'love' and not sacrificing that for whatever you were TOLD to do...my friend has been searching for love for a long time (haven't we all that were single JW gals?) It's the never-ending plight: grow up, get baptized, pioneer, find a good husband. UGH!!!!!!!!!! Unfortunately, her chances haven't come as readily as others (in the org nor in the world) and this guy comes along and they are enjoying each other...so whether it lasts or not, doesn't matter. She is HAPPY for now, and that makes me happy. She has a social life, she has someone to TALK about, she has someone to go out with - so I cna't fault her for living that way.