I think you have recieved some wonderful advice above and I agree that the time she had to spend on the quilt says a lot. Just keep sending her pictures, they have a much greater impact than words, and feel free to vent here, say what you want to say, blow off some steam, then go back and be nice to your family. Win them with love, so to speak. I think that we have to show unconditional love if we want to receive it.
Looking forward to those baby pictures.