This is excellent Van
I learnt a lot reading this. A couple years back I got a call from a sweet elderly Jamaican witness who just bought his Bible with him and we had a nice conversation. Next time he came around he bought a woman with him about my age, who'd obviously had been raised in the cult.
He talked briefly about his son and mentioned his son saying how much he loved his mum and dad. The woman asked smilingly "was it so-and-so" when he said "no it was John" her face suddenly had a look of revulsion and I knew this son had left the cult! She'd displayed her programming perfectly.
When we ended by discussing their 'closed off' attitude to non JWs she became increasingly unpleasant and finally hit back at me with "bad associations spoil useful habits"(obviously testing me since that's a dog whistle to exJWs). She said "you should only associate with good people" (iron sharpens iron etc)and I was a bit stumped.
I wish I'd had read what you've written about what "encouragement" really means in a cult. I'd have been able to craft a far better response.
Cheers.