An excellent question. Id say yes. We do blame them too much. Its convenient, isn't it? How many of us cheerfully accepted the idea that billions of innocent people (either through youth or not having ever been informed of watchtower) were going to be unfairly murdered so that we could have our "happy ever after"? Not all of us were comfortable with it - which is why many of us are here - but millions clearly are and thats a pretty awful thought, isnt it?
N.B. ExpimaBethelite thats one of the best posts ive read of yours, by the way ;)