Flipper: He does know that non-jws have good morals.
What worries me is that I don't think there will ever be anything I could show or tell him that would make him doubt. He has told me more than once that he is comfortable in this religion and it's the way he was raised so he doesn't have a desire to leave. And honesty, he does seem to be happy in this religion. He recognizes when there is something he doesn't agree with and it still doesn't bother him. He just forms his own opinions even if it doesn't agree with the society's literature. And when I challenge some doctrine I don't see his cult personality come out the way I see it with my mom. Nothing I say seems to faze him.
So I went though the whole 'generation' issue with my husband and I got him to admit that the "new light" does not make since. But he just shrugged it off and said that the society has been wrong about other things so it's no a big deal. The governing body are imperfect. He thinks that the society's view on most of Revelation is wrong too. So I asked him why he still has faith in the governing body. At first he said the preaching work and that, for the most part, jws live morally clean lives. I brought out that that could describe other religions(I've talked to him in the past about those other religions) so there has to be something else that sets the governing body apart in his eyes. So his answer was that jws are pacifist. The jws are the only religion who will not go to war and kill others. He said pacifism is something he feels very strongly about. How do I respond to that?
And btw, there are lots of things the society says is a personal choice but to be considered a "spiritually mature" person you would have to not do it. And when I became an adult and started pioneering, it was always drilled into me that pioneers have to be "above reproach." So it would have looked bad in my congregation to buy them.
When I was 23 I made a list of things to do before I turn 30. Then I thought, "What's the rush? When the new system gets here I'll be able to do whatever I want." So I never paid attention to the list and now I no longer have it. I turned 27 a couple of months ago. In three years I'll be 30. I could start another list but I would only have three years to do everything. It depresses me to think of all the wasted time I could have enjoyed.
I made another list recently of things to do that I was never allowed to when I was a jw. After I made the list I realized I might never be able to do some of the things on it(such as Valentine's Day) because my husband is still a jw.
Someone at my work is selling girl scout cookies. I'm going to buy some and I'll be able to check that one off my list. Nobody at work knows about me not wanting to be a jw anymore. It's kind of weird that I can be excited about buying girl scout cookies. No one at work will understand how significant something like this is for me.
btw, I'm not telling anyone at work because one of my co-workers has jw family. Even though they go to spanish and I go to english, I'm not taking any chances.
port-au-prince (reuters) - a major earthquake hit the impoverished country of haiti on tuesday, collapsing buildings in the capital port-au-prince and burying residents under rubble, a reuters reporter in the city said.. he said he saw dozens of dead and injured people in the rubble, which blocked streets in the city.. the epicenter of the quake was located inland, only 10 miles from the capital port-au-prince and was very shallow at a depth of only 6.2 miles.. it prompted a tsunami watch for parts the caribbean, the pacific tsunami warning center said on tuesday.. "everything started shaking, people were screaming, houses started collapsing ... it's total chaos," reuters reporter joseph guyler delva said.
"i saw people under the rubble, and people killed," he added.. a local employee for the u.s. charity food for the poor reported seeing a five-storey building collapse in port-au-prince, a spokeswoman for the group, kathy skipper, told reuters.. another food for the poor employee said there were more houses destroyed than standing in delmas road, a major thoroughfare in the city.. panic-stricken residents filled the streets desperately trying to dig people from rubble or seeking missing relatives as dark fell shortly after the quake.. "people were screaming 'jesus, jesus' and running in all directions," delva said.. a major earthquake, of magnitude 7 or higher, is capable of causing widespread and heavy damage.
there was no immediate report of damage or casualties.. the tsunami center said the watch was in effect for haiti, the neighboring dominican republic, with which it shares the island of hispaniola, cuba and the bahamas.. "a destructive widespread tsunami threat does not exist based on historical earthquake and tsunami data," the center said.
I want to but I'm not sure how to go about it. Nobody in my family knows I'm fading. What if he still feels it's the truth but he's just not going because he's discouraged? How do I bring this up without exposing myself?
