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Advice in dealing with family

by dbm in

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i am new to this forum & looking for some suggestions from anyone in similar situation.

my husband has been df'd for little over a year & i have also stopped attending in the last 6 months.

the problem is my entire family including parents, grandparents, brother, sister-in-law, aunts, uncles, etc., are all still in.

To Finally-Free: Yes, my dad is being truthful. Things were a lot different then, he's 60 yrs old now. Men were elders much younger then compared to how things are now. I know he would not lie about something like that. My point with that was just how serious they are about the religion and how long they've been part of it to show how hard they will take this.

Also, I am not going to try to keep this a secret forever, I just haven't talked to my parents yet as it is very hard to do given their backgrounds. I don't want my son to have that stress of thinking he has to keep quiet about what we are or are not doing as a family. We live 1000 miles away from them right now so it's not something that I've had to deal with yet, but I know it's coming soon after he visits with them.

Thanks for all the comments, there has been a lot of helpful info, especially in how to talk with your children.

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Advice in dealing with family

by dbm in

jw
friends

i am new to this forum & looking for some suggestions from anyone in similar situation.

my husband has been df'd for little over a year & i have also stopped attending in the last 6 months.

the problem is my entire family including parents, grandparents, brother, sister-in-law, aunts, uncles, etc., are all still in.

dbm

My parents are very strong JWs. Dad has been an elder since age 18, mom never worked outside the home & knows nothing else. They are totally wrapped up in everyone & everything having to do with meetings, service, etc., & will give me lots of guilt over my son.

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Advice in dealing with family

by dbm in

jw
friends

i am new to this forum & looking for some suggestions from anyone in similar situation.

my husband has been df'd for little over a year & i have also stopped attending in the last 6 months.

the problem is my entire family including parents, grandparents, brother, sister-in-law, aunts, uncles, etc., are all still in.

dbm

I am new to this forum & looking for some suggestions from anyone in similar situation. My husband has been df'd for little over a year & i have also stopped attending in the last 6 months. The problem is my entire family including parents, grandparents, brother, sister-in-law, aunts, uncles, etc., are all still in. We have a 10 yr old son & have seen many problems in the last year or two that are keeping us from wanting to continue raising him as a JW. We live in another state from my family, but my son still visits twice a year for extended periods when my parents take him to every meeting, service, studying every day, and so on. He seems very confused right now since he is close with my parents, but realizes we do not have the same feelings anymore. I also have not told my family yet that I have stopped attending & don't plan to continue. Just looking for any advice about talking to kids about leaving & to family who are still JWs.