EP - You are reading thing back into the gospels that cannot be honestly read out of them.
Jesus was a failed apocalyptic prophet. He started as a disciple of John the Baptist and went on to develop his own following. Just like every failed prophecy since, his followers found new ways to interpret his prognostications in order to maintain their beliefs.
He absolutely did drag men away from their wives and families to preach his deluded ravings. 'We have left wives etc etc for you'. He was a dangerous egomaniac but probably sincere.