Theists proclaim the necessity of belief (believe or perish) in a god as follows;
- He is immanent (constantly active in the world)
- He created a perfect world for human life
- He is all knowing - nothing escapes his notice
- He is all powerful - he can do anything that is logically possible
- He is the epitome of love
- His son - who is his image - revealed the meaning of god's love in practical concern for others; even his enemies
- He has so much care for his human creation it is as if he knows the very number of hairs on the head of every person
- Nothing happens without his knowledge or consent
Reality - He drowns thousands of infants in tsunamis and crushes them to death in earthquakes every year.
The theist, instead of accepting the god they proclaim to be impossible, indulges in the most tortuous mental gymnastics that amounts in many cases to gas lighting.
I could, and perhaps will, compile a list of some of the best and worst examples of theodicies we have seen in this forum
To say that we just can't understand why god does these things is like saying a best friend - who has been discovered to be a serial killer of infants - might have his own good reasons. As soon as you go down that road you become an apologist for the worst crimes imaginable. Sophistry is the kindest interpretation.