JW Version
Give unconditional love. Except if they leave Jehovah. In that case, shun them, feel that you're doing the right thing by putting God ahead of your own child and cry and get the sympathy of your brothers and sisters. Then call it love because you're punishing your child so that they come back to their senses and return to your religious beliefs, errr, I mean Jehovah.
Teach limits. If your kid makes noise at the meeting, spank the hell out of him in the back or when you get home. If they try to examine their religious beliefs on the internet, explain to them that most information on JWs on the internet is part of the "table of demons" and that apostates are trying to deceive them with clever human reasoning. If they don't listen, tell the elders so that they can reason with your child or take appropriate judicial action.
Support healthy risks. Encourage your child to learn something new from the society's publications. For instance, try not to "rescue" him if he's showing mild frustration at understanding the new light or the faithful slaves explanation of a scriptural matter. Tell him to "wait on Jehovah" or just keep reading it over and over again until he gets it. Explain that the publications outline what risks in life he can and cannot take.
Don't Let mistakes happen. It is better to learn from other people's mistakes, like Andre's and those in the Bible whom were destroyed because they were not obedient.
Celebrate the positive. Everyone responds well to encouragement, so make an effort to acknowledge the good things your child does every day within his earshot. For instance, tell his dad, "Joshua underlined all the answers in his preparation for the Congreation Bible study." He'll get to bask in the glow of your praise and his dad's heartening response. And be specific. Instead of saying "Good job," say, "Thank you for telling your classmates that they will die in Armageddon if they dont' become Jehovah's Witnesses." This will enhance his sense of accomplishment and self-worth and let him know exactly what he did right.
Listen well. If your child needs to talk, stop and listen to what he has to say. He needs to know that his thoughts, feelings, desires, and opinions matter. Help him get comfortable with his emotions by labeling them. Say, "I understand you're sad because you have to turn down your worldly friends invitations to play". Then explain to him why his thinking and feelings are wrong, and what he should be feeling and thinking in order to make God happy.
Resist comparisons. Comments such as "Why can't you be more like your sister?" or "Why can't you be nice like Peter?" will just foster competition with other humans. Instead, let your child know that he has to compete with his sinful flesh and the demons. This be extremely good for his mental health. If you let your child know you appreciate him for how well he measures up to the ideals provided by the "Faithful Slave", then he will always feel like he has room to improve and something to strive for.
Offer empathy. If your child compares himself unfavorably to his siblings or peers ("Why can't I catch a comment like Sophia?"), show him empathy and then emphasize one of his strengths. For instance, say, "You're right. Sophia is good at commenting. One day you can be like her." This can help your child learn that we all have strengths and weaknesses, and that he can work on his weaknesses, or pray for forgiveness, to feel good about himself.
Provide encouragement. Every child needs the kind of support from loved ones that signals, "I believe in you. I see your effort. Keep going!" Encouragement means acknowledging progress — not just rewarding achievement. So if your preschooler is struggling to offer a tract at the door, say, "You're trying very hard and you almost have it! Try hard so that the householder has an opportunity to come into the Truth insted of dying at Armageddon" instead of "Not like that. Let me do it."