The Elders in our Cong knew we didn't get on with relatives in the same Cong and that the husband was desperate to be made an Elder. We had reservations about this relative being appointed which we had previously aired in confidence. However, this wasn't enough, the Elders hounded my husband for dirty on the family until in the end he told them to get stuffed. We may not get on, but we were not about to invent dirt just to please the Elders.
The relative is now an Elder and knowing what I do I am sure he will fit in perfectly.
To add a twist to this story the Elders have since told my relatives that we had made accusations against them re his appointment as an Elder causing a great deal of unnecessary friction in the family. They obviously left out their involvement although I am sure my relatives know how much they are disliked.
Magwitch I am truly sorry for your lose and treatment just proves what these people real are like.