HeyThere: Hi!
Maybe those of us that have been Out of the WT a little longer can see a huge "turn around" in Major doctrine over the past 30 years.
Has your partner ever considered, that much of the Doctrine of Today, was the "Apostasy" of 30+ years ago? So, who are the Apostates? Those that stand up for what they believe what is right and true, according to the Scriptures... or those that blindly follow the "Teachings of Men", and fall into the "Pit" with them?
For me, I simply found myself spending over 100 hours a month... insisting this was the "Truth" only to find the rug pulled under me, as "New Light" altered well established Doctrine.
We have here a Religion, that encourages folk to "Read the Bible Daily"... then, chokes them out when they start to reason for themselves and form a relationship of their own with God.
The issue that started the Ball rolling for me, was an article on Cannibalism, shortly after an airplance crashed in the Andes in Peru. At first, I thought..."wow" what sound reasoning.... No Biblical edict to sanction a person if they chose to Eat The Flesh of those that were Dead.... then I thought, well if they can reason that way over such gut wrenching choice... what about the difference, eating blood for food... against the use of blood in Medicine, for the Saving of Life? Shortly after that article, I found myself in field service, consoling a Surgeon from Nicaragua, in tears because he let a 16 year old... a few days beyond the age of Majority... die, when he felt he could have saved her. Though, I shook his hand and attempted to console him... I walked away with my head and guts in turmoil... thinking, there is something really not right here...
You, are responsible before God, for your own Conscience ... go with it... and be at Peace.
Best wishes.