Posts by savanah

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My B/F told me he's a J/W after months of dating!

by Funky_Diva_53_2000 in

hi, i'm 17 and i've just recently become a member of this website and i want you to know what has happened to me over the past months.back in sep/oct 2001 i started chatting to a 20 year old bloke via the internet and we developed a great friendship over the net.we would talk online for ages,text and phone each other loads,we sent each other photos of ourselves and he would often put his webcam on for me to see.before i knew it he played a great part in my everyday life...and i spent so much time chatting to him that my college work suffered a lot & i wasn't doing my coursework (i eventually got told to leave as i hadn't done loads of the assignments and stuff & had fallen behind).

after about 6 months we arranged to meet up (i made sure my parents were at home coz i know it's dodgy to meet people from the internet).anyway,he came round my house one evening in march and we got along soo well...he lives quite locally too which was good.our friendship then grew into a relationship and we started dating and going out together,i was sooo happy and i fell for him in a massive way & he said he felt the same way too.to me,he was a girls dream come true...he was kind,caring,fit,good-looking & gentle and i loved him to bits!,i still do,and i thought we'd be together forever.

something that i did find a bit strange though was i hadn't met his family yet or heard my boyfriend talk much about them.i would question him about his family but he seemed to get a bit funny about it and when i mentioned about meeting his family he said something along the lines of ''they're a bit strange,you might not like them'' (or something like that anyway).that got me thinking and i though prehaps they lived in a run-down place or something,or they wern't very nice people and i thought my b/f could be ashamed to let me meet them.i thought to myself to give him time & he'll see that i'm an understanding & nice person and hoped that he would soon come out and tell me what the problem was (thinking it was about what i've just mentioned).

savanah

Just over a year ago one of my closest friends married someone that wasnt one of Jehovahs Witnesses and although it was looked down upon, she was not disfellowshiped so I know first hand how the elders deal with these situations. There are always talks encouraging us only to 'marry in the lord' and not to be 'unevenly yoked' with good reason as I said in my previous email, being a witness takes up so much time in your life (for example if you were someone dedicated to a sport and you had to train every day) God didnt say this to make us unhappy, it was for a good reason. But if it does happen, then you dont immediately get disfellowshipped unless youve committed fornication and even then, if youre repentant, not even then. The only way a relationship between someone that is a witness and non-witness will work, is if they both respect each others views and religions etc. It wouldnt be easy!!

Eyegirl, you can take it as being condescending but the thing is, the majority of the people that talk on this website are apostate so dont you think its good to get the views of someone that is isnt bias? Im not saying youre evil. Youre probably a very nice person but unfortunately like I said in my first email, we are not perfect as much as wed like to be, and so we make mistakes. That goes for the elders as well. They arent perfect either and make mistakes.

As for being a hypocrite, I try and live my life as close to bible standards as I can, but unfortunately only after God has stepped in will I ever be perfect. Jehovahs Witnesses do not expect you NEVER to stuff up. Man, everyone would be disfellowshipped if that was the case!!

So Brokenheartedidiot, you should go to the elders, sort it out so that youve got a clean conscience and make some sort of decision about your girlfriend so that youre not mucking her around anymore.

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My B/F told me he's a J/W after months of dating!

by Funky_Diva_53_2000 in

hi, i'm 17 and i've just recently become a member of this website and i want you to know what has happened to me over the past months.back in sep/oct 2001 i started chatting to a 20 year old bloke via the internet and we developed a great friendship over the net.we would talk online for ages,text and phone each other loads,we sent each other photos of ourselves and he would often put his webcam on for me to see.before i knew it he played a great part in my everyday life...and i spent so much time chatting to him that my college work suffered a lot & i wasn't doing my coursework (i eventually got told to leave as i hadn't done loads of the assignments and stuff & had fallen behind).

after about 6 months we arranged to meet up (i made sure my parents were at home coz i know it's dodgy to meet people from the internet).anyway,he came round my house one evening in march and we got along soo well...he lives quite locally too which was good.our friendship then grew into a relationship and we started dating and going out together,i was sooo happy and i fell for him in a massive way & he said he felt the same way too.to me,he was a girls dream come true...he was kind,caring,fit,good-looking & gentle and i loved him to bits!,i still do,and i thought we'd be together forever.

something that i did find a bit strange though was i hadn't met his family yet or heard my boyfriend talk much about them.i would question him about his family but he seemed to get a bit funny about it and when i mentioned about meeting his family he said something along the lines of ''they're a bit strange,you might not like them'' (or something like that anyway).that got me thinking and i though prehaps they lived in a run-down place or something,or they wern't very nice people and i thought my b/f could be ashamed to let me meet them.i thought to myself to give him time & he'll see that i'm an understanding & nice person and hoped that he would soon come out and tell me what the problem was (thinking it was about what i've just mentioned).

savanah

Dear Brokenheartedidiot

I have been baptized as a Jehovahs Witness for 6 years now and can understand what youre going through as I have done some stupid things in the past as well. Ok, sure youve done something wrong and had sex with her (oral sex is sex really) but we both know that if you go to the elders about it that they will help you through this. Jehovah will forgive you for the things that youve done wrong if you are repentent. Unfortunately we are not perfect and make mistakes.

Believe it or not guys, we are not brain washed. I looked into other religions before I decided to get baptized as one of Jehovahs Witnesses and if you really do research it then you will be amazed at what you will learn. It really is the truth.

As for Funky, Im really sorry that he has mucked you around. It must be really hard to understand. If you were a little bit older, and he really loved you, then he could marry you. What that person said earlier about Jehovahs Witnesses not being able to marry someone that not in their religion is not true. The bible definitely doesnt recommend it, but it is a conscience matter and he will not be disfellowshipped if he did marry you. However, if the relationship is going to go anyway you have to respect his religious beliefs. Obviously when we have such strong convictions and being a witness takes up so much of our time, you can see why the bible recommends that we marry someone who is of the same faith. The fact that he still wants to see you even after his families disapproval, shows that he has really strong feelings for you.

If you really love him, you will respect his religious beliefs and he will respect yours. You may be confused as to why he would allow you to go so far sexually. But hes right, in the heat of the moment, you do do stupid things and hes twenty so hes probably horny as..... Like I said before, we all make mistakes and none of us are perfect.

Now, I know you guys are gonna twist everything Ive just said but I really wanted to him to hear something from a witness and not some apostate.

ciao