I think that is something to discuss, however, I would assume that even though you are the sole wage earner, your wife provides a value to you so that you share your wages with her and she should have some say in the matter.
I would say ... HELL NO ... to donating, but your wife should have some input too.
What's next? Tell her she can't have money to attend the convention or assembly? Take away her freedom to choose her religion?
You could divorce her, pay her alimony, then let her decide where that money is spent without your input.