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  3 years into my fade

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  wow so here we are, april 25th.

  3 years ago to this day something within me made me google my former religion.

  it was all the the years of doubts concentrated into one all nighter to have the veil drop like a sack of shit.

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  How you can get into the Governing Body!

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  i just had a realization looking at a website about the governing body.... in order to get there you no doubt have to have long service to the borg, but more importantly you have to be so deluded and out of touch that you think you're actually going to heaven!

  these guys are so brain washed they believe everything so dearly that they actually think they are of the anointed.

  no wonder they make such terrible decisions and policies, these guys are loons.. .

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  Candace Conti case - An issue of policy, was "Elder Manual" used?

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  Candace Conti case - An issue of policy, was "Elder Manual" used?

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  i am curious in order to establish the fact that the society uses a policy of first contacting the branch in regards to cases of child abuse and not the police, was the elders manual used as proof?

  i have a suspicion it was, but would like to see it verified.

  casually looking at the case notes right now.. i also wonder if they used previous documentation made by the elders for the perp, such as his first "conviction".. anyone have insights?.

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  2 year into my fade, where I'm at...

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  well it's been exactly 2 years and 2 weeks since the night where i investigated (googled) as much about jws as i could after being born and raised in the cult till my mid 20s.

  it took just one all nighter to completely demolish all of the doctrines and bullshit of the religion.

  basically after that i went to one more convention and have not stepped into a kingdom hall since.

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  Woe is me...

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  i need to get this out and this is the only place i know that it will be ok to do so.. so i've been out (inactive) for over a year a half now and decided i wanted a relationship with a non-jw, obviously.

  i'm in my late 20s and never really had a girlfriend.

  it doesn't help that i'm an introvert and not a very social person, add to that the guilt and control issues i have from jws and i don't think i have many outgoing attractive qualities.. i have been on dates with about 4 girls so far, one i approached randomly and the others from online dating.

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  How did you fill the void after leaving?

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  i'm curious about how people filled the void after leaving the jws.

  i'm at a point, a bit over a year after leaving, where i am finding i have confronted the reality of my life and situation... and it's depressing.

  i realize i have holes in my life (a significant other, social activities, something higher/beyond myself) which many worldly people naturally have filled but it feels unnatural for me, almost synthetic and it makes me more depressed the more i think about it.

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  How to reply to "I want to do more for the truth"?

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  hey guys,.

  a little background first.

  i have a friend who knows i am inactive, or at least knows i am doing little to nothing for the truth.

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  Did therapy help you?

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  i am considering going to a therapist.

  even though i believe i have gotten better and made some progress (it has been roughly a year since i stopped attending meetings, doing anything jw-wise), i still have a lot of negative self-talk which is hard to overcome, especially during off days like today.. i find the hardest things for me is low self-esteem and social interactions/anxiety.

  i'm sure some of you can sympathsize, and though i am not fully blaming my issues soley to my jw upbring (born-in) i know it compounded those issues.. .

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  Has leaving made you stronger?

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  this is a follow up to a thread on how the religion screwed us up (http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/207143/1/did-this-religion-screw-you-up-if-so-how).. i remember reading in combatting cult mind control that an individual that has experienced and left a cult is a much stronger person than your average joe shmoe.

  i agree with this.

  i'm sill in the process but i can see myself becoming mentally stronger.

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