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  There Goes My Wife. . . .

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  Sad thing about this situation is that, . . . she wasn't always this way. She was a fun girl, . . enjoyed life and all that it had to offer and I fell in love with her. Not the girl I know only looks like the girl I married, she literally makes my chest hurt when i'm with here. .

  @ New Chap

  I understand, its hard to see that being on the outside looking in. I guess the way I went about it was all wrong, . . is there anything I can do now to retract things abit without myself being ran over by here and this Org. I mean, is accepting all the BS the price to pay if I want my marriage to succeed (which I won't)? Clearly there is no median nor common ground that we can both come to and live amongst each other in peace (which is the reason I left a couple months ago). Just trying to find out if theres a fix to this complicated situation of mine.
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  There Goes My Wife. . . .

  by southern.finesse in

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  @ Anony Mous

  Thanks, I don't believe I persecuted her to be honest (in her mind, i probaly was) but I just wanted simply for her to make an informed choice. Guess it didnt work.

  Im not sure what you mean by in the 2nd para., what exactly do they admit? Did I miss something?
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  There Goes My Wife. . . .

  by southern.finesse in

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  into the hands of the WT Society. Next weekend, she has arranged her baptism at the convention.

  Since we got married, she has been full-throttle into the only belief systems she has ever known and has shown all the traits of a devout Witness articulated on this board. I'm sure the dip in the water will only unite the full internal Witness she long desires to be. My only request to her was before she goes through with this decision just to hear my concerns and only become knowledgeable (to examine the claims and history of this "Slave") NEGATIVE. . . I wasn't surprised at her answer to me because she has yet to produce me a king list (knows about the 20yrs missing), still believe Jesus is her mediator and convinced that the false prophecies were made by only part of the Society which were eventually disfellowshipped SMH. I moved out a couple months ago because I just couldn't deal with her on a daily basis. The self-righteousness, the arrogance and disrespect was overwhelming. To have all the loyalty and respect to this Org. when I was being spat on being the provider for her and our household was a downright slap in my face. I really hoped that my marriage would have worked despite our BIG issue. I know after this weekend, it’s over. Guess I'm just venting right now, I don't know anyone that can relate to my situation except for you guys/gals . . . . Thanks to JWN for this outlet for me. I really needed it. . .

  Thanks
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  Happy BURRRR. . . . Day??

  by southern.finesse in

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  my girlfriend was raised in the midst of jws.

  she never went to the kh while we dated but she did attend assemblies once a year.

  birthday celebrations were never an issue for us.

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  UPDATE:

  I decided not to mention her birthday. As the day when forth, she called me and hinted that it was ok for me to gesture that she was "a day" older instead of saying happy birthday (whats the difference??). She acknowledged that the day was very important to her, but not important enough to celebrate. I rolled with it and acknowledge "her day" in a joking way as her being my old lady because she is older than I.

  I did notice one thing, she was hurt. I believe she was hurt not only because I didn't mention it but also because she wants to feel special as her previous birthdays. I felt bad as a husband because I do love my wife and would have went all out to show her a wonderful time on "her day". No presents, no dinner date, no nothing. I respect her views and will not "stumble her" but I could tell in her voice she was hurt. =(

  Ill see what happens on Cupid's Day. . . SMH
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  Happy BURRRR. . . . Day??

  by southern.finesse in

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  my girlfriend was raised in the midst of jws.

  she never went to the kh while we dated but she did attend assemblies once a year.

  birthday celebrations were never an issue for us.

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  southern.finesse

  I actually have his book on order now. Thanks for the information and the suggestion of his book.

  Any more comments, advice?
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  Happy BURRRR. . . . Day??

  by southern.finesse in

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  my girlfriend was raised in the midst of jws.

  she never went to the kh while we dated but she did attend assemblies once a year.

  birthday celebrations were never an issue for us.

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  @ GL, thank you very much for your insight. It is appreciated

  From the posts, I really just don't fully know what I have gotten myself in did I? Like I said before, she started going to the KH after I married her. . . I feel PLAYED.

  Her birthday is soon, I would like to get more insights from other about this situation. Please comment if you just have encouragement for me, I have alot of mixed emotions dealing with this situation as a whole. How exactly can I reach meaningful agreements when she is basically against me in a weird sense?
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  Happy BURRRR. . . . Day??

  by southern.finesse in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my girlfriend was raised in the midst of jws.

  she never went to the kh while we dated but she did attend assemblies once a year.

  birthday celebrations were never an issue for us.

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  @jamienbower, I/we don't have any children but in the future I would like to have some. I would like to have some, but the differences and the future issues I KNOW we will have makes me ill. ESP, if I feel this way now. . . putting children in the mix will only complicate things more. So should I just had over my future intentions on having children? I told her off top that if we were to have any, they were forbidden to step foot anywhere near a KM!!

  Can I please have more input from others on the board? I greatly appreciate all the responses.
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  Happy BURRRR. . . . Day??

  by southern.finesse in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my girlfriend was raised in the midst of jws.

  she never went to the kh while we dated but she did attend assemblies once a year.

  birthday celebrations were never an issue for us.

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  @ cantleave, she didnt ask me what I wanted to do on my birthday and I celebrate them. So why should I ask her "what you want to do" when she "claims" not to celebrate?

  @s0rt3d, i believe ill lose more respect for her if she did want to go out and paint the town.

  @wasblind, ive realized it now that I do have a long road ahead of me. She knows i'll never be a JW

  This is really what I don't understand, she is convicted in her mind not to watch rated R movies, get up a 6am on Saturdays to publish, and watch all her associations but wheres the conviction when she disrespects and over talks her husband?? She doesn't celebrate 4th of July, but she wanted to go out and see the fireworks. Memorial Day we were out with her "30 years of studying mother" BBQn at the city park. Get off the fence so I can clearly see which side your on. We have been married only alittle over a year now and it's hard for me to adjust to all of these changes overnight.

  I want to take my wife out and allow her to enjoy the day of her birth, yet if she is taught not to celebrated. . i should be obligated to respect her beliefs. . RIGHT??
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  Happy BURRRR. . . . Day??

  by southern.finesse in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my girlfriend was raised in the midst of jws.

  she never went to the kh while we dated but she did attend assemblies once a year.

  birthday celebrations were never an issue for us.

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  My girlfriend was raised in the midst of JWs. She never went to the KH while we dated but she did attend assemblies once a year. Birthday celebrations were never an issue for us. We took romantic trips, dined at fine restaurants, exchanged lovely gifts, and velvet cake w/white icing became her favorite. But from the very moment I made her my wife, birthdays were of the devil. After we exchanged vows, my birthday came 1 st . I spent it alone at a restaurant.

  Exactly how should I treat her birthday since it is quickly approaching? Should I even acknowledge it?

  Please comment.
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  My First Post.Thanks To ALL

  by southern.finesse in

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  i would like to start my 1st post by saying thank you.

  to the site itself and to all the posters.

  my story begins with me meeting the woman of my dreams 4 years ago.

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  @ debator

  Thanks for the reply. I appreciate you taking time out to clarify your thoughts. Im on this board not to debate or to convince you/anyone of what they should believe. Really, if you firmly believe your org. is Yahweh's sole channel of communication on earth today, who am I to convince you other wise?

  I don't believe a son can be his father. Nor do I believe 3 = 1. However I do believe that 1 x 1 x 1= 1. Really my own personal beliefs or my denomination really is of no importance here. What is important is that I hear and examine what JWs and ExJWs have to say. Im glad you are here on this board because you present a different stance.

  Thanks for the warnings concerning this site. I see your faith is unwavering. Being a JW, can I ask, why exactly are you on this board?