Posts by 3dogs1husband

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Thanks and Goodbye

by brotherdan in

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i really do appreciate all the help you guys have given me in this process.

but it's time for me to leave.

it was time for me to leave the wt (at least in my mind) when it became damaging to me.

I just read a few of the threads, and wow Br Dan needs a week in Mexico with a Margaritta. I found for me I had to let go of all my beliefs. Just strip myself blank.....I went to the place where there is no God. I learned to be okay there. But now I am feeling pulled to start to learn and ask and read. I might feel comfortable one day being a christian. Right now I am just okay figuring it out. Letting go is the first step to finding out who you are. But being stripped naked of all your beliefs (esp as a former JW) is the most painful and humbling experience ever.....maybe Br Dan wasnt quite ready for that yet?

I hope one day he gets that this was maybe the first time, people valued him enough to question him.

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Thanks and Goodbye

by brotherdan in

jw
friends

i really do appreciate all the help you guys have given me in this process.

but it's time for me to leave.

it was time for me to leave the wt (at least in my mind) when it became damaging to me.

3dogs1husband

Maybe this is part of your journey, perhaps you got to invested in this site and now feel the need to let it go? It wouldnt be such a bad thing to unplug take some time and come back once in awhile lurk, and maybe post and let everyone know how you are doing. I have never gotten into much debatting about the whole god/bible stuff on here because I choose not to. No one else gets "it" ..... hopefully we see you soon!

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Canada residents, How can I get it in the USA?

by asilentone in

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someone told me it is very good.

http://www.presidentschoice.ca/lclonline/products.jsp?catids=cat40002&type=details&catids=110&productid=19951 .

copy and paste, see the website.

3dogs1husband

well a flat rate box from usps isnt too bad... I can ship from the us. I'd have to pack it very well. I need to go to Extra Foods today I will see if it is in stock!

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Canada residents, How can I get it in the USA?

by asilentone in

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friends

someone told me it is very good.

http://www.presidentschoice.ca/lclonline/products.jsp?catids=cat40002&type=details&catids=110&productid=19951 .

copy and paste, see the website.

3dogs1husband

hmmm you get me to buy it and ship it to you!

443

Generation Teaching - Everyone is speechless?

by Red Piller in

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maybe the effect of this change is bigger than realized?

in 1995, it was discussed (positively) by everybody, during the week we studied the wt.

one elder stepped down and was looked down upon.

3dogs1husband

Ty Sab...

Of course it was also soooo many other issues, the fact that my husbands (3rd gen JW) grandfather who was at bethal new and talked to the judge regularly (privatley said he was a bit of an ass) was kicked out for marrying, looked down upon for haveing one child, sold his house in 75 gave most of the $ to the WTBTS bought a truck camper and a piece of crap piece of land in the dessert to go and wait and preach till the New System came. He is Dead, he died 3 years ago thankfully he couldnt remember how much he gave and wasted, however his lovely wife well into her 80s now is sad and angry, but still faithful....she is a mummering. We are outraged for her - for this families wasted lives. The pain of Dissfellowshiping for generations - the horrible decisions of how to care for her when no one takes care of their finances.

So maybe with that background we were more senitive to the gen bull crap. Like many others i fell the young gen does even care about the doctrine, or the past, or old people in general. They might not care as much?!

new darkness - great!

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Generation Teaching - Everyone is speechless?

by Red Piller in

jw
friends

maybe the effect of this change is bigger than realized?

in 1995, it was discussed (positively) by everybody, during the week we studied the wt.

one elder stepped down and was looked down upon.

3dogs1husband

I think I am going to change my phrase of "drinking the Koolaid" to drinking the Eggnogg!

(BTW I bet Koolaid HATES that phrase? Do you think? Or is it a lil joke at the Koolaid Corp, like when a mean boss hands out a stupid memo, do the workers roll their eyes and say "gotta drink the Koolaid Koolaid")

My husband and Myself were for 12 years depressed never good enough JW's after this summers District Convention, we drove home and were like WTF.....?????? Generations did what, are you kidding me? right this is a joke? right? are you serious? And now less then 6 months latter we are freeing ourselves, physicaly and mentaly!

We have been speechless in the cong, but our actions speak for themselves!

Seriously I will not drink the eggnogg any more!

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Do you feel sorry for the family members who shun you?

by SweetBabyCheezits in

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as each instance of shunning happens to me, it seems even more ridiculous than the last.. this weekend i took our kids to the park - wife opted out, understandably - and we let our daughter call my parents to inform them we'd be there.

this was my first time in the presence of my parents since our df announcement two weeks ago.. my mom and dad were 10-20 feet away much of the time and yet they never said a greeting or.. well anything.

at one point my daughter, who is aware of the shunning, mistakenly thought my mom called my name and shouted excitedly, "mawmaw, were you talking to daddy??

3dogs1husband

I am not shunned, yet I have shunned,

I am ashammed of shunning thru and thru

and I am hidding from a shunning

and for that I am sorry too.

SBC I only only there in thoughts because I cowardly try to fade........

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cause some commotion with elders book

by TheLoveDoctor in

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friends

how about pringting 2 or 3 selected pages from ks book say from judicial section.

make 3 or 4 copies of those pages and plant them in diffrent spots in the kingdom hall.

then watch.

3dogs1husband

ohhh man then I would have to attend.......

138

S.O.S.

by AGuest in

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friends

this is totally out of my usual realm of posting but i really would like some input, please (may you all have peace!).

i have supervised many employees over the years and have dealt with all kinds of issues, except this one... although i know it's not uncommon.

i have a staff member who has the worst halitosis.

3dogs1husband

My vote is you just talk honestly. I have worked for some pretty passive agressive bosses before, and they would have written an entire office memo, about offensive odors, bad breath personal hygyene ect ect.....

Givivng this issue on to the DR sounds like it might work, but if it is tooth decay you are otta luck and will have to have that convo.

In one place I worked we had an eval that had a personal hygine/dress code section. It made it really easy for the managers to bring it.

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Thanks to you - I think I bought myself some time....

by dssynergy in

so i've been working out of town the last month and i'm back home for a couple of weeks to attend a conference and some business meetings.

my mom while i was away has been concerned about my meeting attendance (haven't gon in almost a year, except memorial) - even when i was home she was concerned.

so today, when we met up for dinner - inevitibly, my meeting attendance came up as a topic of concern.

3dogs1husband

you didnt tell her that you started your own church in your living room reading the bible?....hahaha! Good Job Fader!