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Hi I dont know if you will read this or not, but anyways.....
Car Wrecks....Try Life Wrecks. Okay Please Read Your Original Post! ......If you replaced the Elders with any other men who run any other religion...YOU WOULD BE HORRIFIED. There is a lot of crazy around here, as much crazy as the inside of any Kingdom Hall. But there is something that is beyond that.... it is the knowledge that we get it. We understand.
This is LIFE you can be a JW, you can be a CC Member, you can be apostate, you can be christain, athiest whatever you want....That was the scarriest thought for me...options!!!. You have a life, you make choices. Hope to see you back...like the prodicial son we will have a party for you!
They dealt swiftly and disfellowshipped both of us. I have no issue with that BUT...
After all of that went down my family went mad. They started gossiping and slandering him in a way I have never encountered. Stories were circulating that he was into 'hookers' and that he was 'addicted to online porn and gambling'... my family went on a rampage to destroy his repuation.
He tried to get a job and had to use brothers as a reference (since his whole career had been working with brothers)... well, let's just say he didn't get the job despite the fact that he had been an outstanding employee and helped his previous employers build their busines from the ground up. They were unable to keep the 'scandal' apart from his employment record and destroyed his chances of getting a job.
Out of responsiblity, he gave his ex-wife their 4,500 square foot home, all the contents... EVERYTHING. She wouldn't even let him have his clothing or his Bible. On top of that, he pays her $1200 per month. She outright refused to give him a divorce unless he gave her FULL custody of the kids whom he loves dearly. They have been manipulated and brainwashed against him and it's just tragic.
About two months ago we wrote a letter requestiong reinstatement. We got not response. We resubmitted and within about a week two fo the brothers from my committee arranged to meet with us.
They came in and did not remove their coats. They glanced at the baby and mumbled some sort of acknowledgement but didn't even ask his name. They made it clear they had an agenda. They told us that it was 'too soon'. They did not want to hear any extra information. They told us that we were 'schemers' and that because of the new manual it could take 'years and years' for them to consider our request to be reinstated. They told us that preparing for the meetings was part of what was suggested. When I told them we were informed we could not have a study article of the WT, they kind of mumbled we could have one now according to the new manual. But apparently, that was still a stroke against us. On top of that, the brother leading the meeting said that his own father left their family and I guess his own personal experience was influencing his attitude. He made it very clear that he has already decided on his opinion and nothing we said would change that.
We felt pretty horrible afterwards. My husband was sobbing and felt that he had ruined my life
And Everyone On here KNOWS these to be Truths.
