these thoughts have been triggered by one of esmerelda's posts about the lesson she learned from her daughter.
if you haven't read it, please do.
it is beautifully written!
Andi,
I recently lost the greatest blessing in my life, but I'm still very thankful for the gift of life itself. The struggle to get out of bed each day is well worth the effort. Many here have helped me to start to heal, and that is the greatest blessing of all. I hope you find peace, life is too short to be without it.
Take care,
Kevin
because they are insane.
mabey not all of them, but the one's i've been exposed to so far have some serious mental problems.
and for the record i'm not talking about their religious beliefs, i'm basing my opinion on direct actions taken by the ones that i have had personal experience with.. thought some of you might be interested in the things that have been going on with me and jon's family.
Because they are insane. Mabey not all of them, but the one's I've been exposed to so far have some serious mental problems. And for the record I'm not talking about their religious beliefs, I'm basing my opinion on direct actions taken by the ones that I have had personal experience with.
Thought some of you might be interested in the things that have been going on with me and Jon's family. I filed the restraining order against Jon's father but that hasn't seemed to stop him. Friday morning when I was leaving to go to my attorneys office I found a very nice poster size piece of cardboard taped to the windshield of my car. Thankfully the person responsible placed it face forward so unless you were stitting in the car you could not read the pleasant little message it contained. There in nice bold letters it said "Jehovah God Hates FAGS". Notice it didn't say GOD it said Jehovah God, so I know who it came from. I can't prove it but I know it none the less. So much for trying to handle things with these people nicely. Now his ass is mine, and I don't mean that in a good way.
I have installed a small security camera on my garage so that next time he comes on the property I can nail his ass to the wall. The local police and my attorney say that is all I need to file charges against him. I can't wait to see his face when they throw his sorry behind in jail. I know he probably won't stay long but it will be worth it just the same.
I'm begining to think that these people are kind of like a mafia organization of some kind. On Saturday two men in suits knocked on my front door. I thought they were police detectives coming to check on the report I had filed. WRONG. They told me that they were from the local JW congregation and wanted to know if I would be willing to talk to them about Jon and his family. They knew me by first and last name folks and that bothers me. I asked them what they wanted, and they said that they wanted to help settle the trouble between Jon's father and myself so that we could come to some kind of arrangement. I told them they had 30 seconds to get off my property or I was going to call the police. They said they were just trying to help one of their fellow brothers in his hour of grief, and I came unglued. What the hell did they mean by his hour of grief. This man treated Jon like he barely existed and now he's in grief because Jon died. Well too fucking bad. I hope he grieves till his dying day over what he did to Jon and then has to deal with it for eternity in hell. I told them to get out and never come back. I have a feeling they will be back anyway.
These people are seriously mental. I'm not trying to degrade anyones religious affiliation but, anyone who could get involved with these people must have some serious issues. I'm sorry if that offends anyone here as that is not my intention. I have been contacted my many of you here on this board and you have all been very loving and thoughtful and kind. I think that's why you all left that religion, you were too good for it. I know Jon was.
As my love would say, peace to you and yours,
Kevin
sorry if this is a dumb question but i'd like to know.
are they like on the same level of say a priest, or more like a deacon.
jon's father is an elder and he's the biggest wack job i've ever seen so i can't see how they could have much authority in any church that was worth being a member of.. just wondering,.
Sorry if this is a dumb question but I'd like to know. Are they like on the same level of say a Priest, or more like a Deacon. Jon's father is an elder and he's the biggest wack job I've ever seen so I can't see how they could have much authority in any church that was worth being a member of.
Just wondering,
Kevin
good news everyone i am engaged.
mickey67214 (jessica) and i are getting married next spring.
a date has not been set yet, but i will let you know later.
Jeremy,
Please don't cry. I've cried enough for both of us the last few days to last a lifetime. Focus on the joy in your life and the happiness of love and a wedding. Email me if you need someone to talk to. I have something you and Jess might like. I have a pair of Unity candles that Jon and I used at our commitment ceremony. I would like to send you and Jess a pair if you would like them. They have always signified great love to me and I hope they will signify the same to you both.
Take care,
Kevin
please forgive my language in this post but i'm at my wits end and pissed as hell.
my name is kevin and my partner who was a poster on this board was jonjonsimons.
today jons dad showed up at our house.
Lisa,
I have a "personal" video tape that would probably wreck his world. But I don't think Jon would want him to see that one. I'm calming down now and I'll deal with this bastard on my own terms eventually. For now I can only think of my love, and for now that is all I want to do.
Kevin
good news everyone i am engaged.
mickey67214 (jessica) and i are getting married next spring.
a date has not been set yet, but i will let you know later.
Jayhawk and Mickey,
The only thing I can say to you both is that I wish you the joy and happiness that Jon and I had. My best wishes for you both.
Kevin
my name is kevin and i am jon's partner.
jon gave me his password a few weeks ago and asked me to post to the board if something happened to him.
as some of you know jon had been undergoing cancer treatment since the end of july.
Thank you again to everyone here. I wanted to let you know that I followed Jons last wish today and spread some of his ashes at his mothers grave and some at Pauls grave. I am sitting here typing this looking at the urn that holds the remainder of his ashes. I had to save part of him for me alone. I can see him still in the house and I can hear his voice, and I can still smell him in our bed. I am so grateful we were able to spend last weekend together before he went back to the hospital. It's as if I still have a part of him here with me and that makes me so very happy. I thank God for giving me Jon even if for just a short 8 years. He was such a happy person and I am glad he shared some of his charm and wit with you. I spent several hours today going thru the posts I could find that he made, and it made my heart glad. That whole group of posts about Prisca and Dave and Tina and Riz with the plane trip and squirell nut stuffing made me laugh so hard I just about wet myself. I really needed that today and I'm glad I found it here.
Tina you saved my life last night. I know that sounds dramatic but you calmed me down and made me realize that yes this sucks but it will get better. I am trying hard to concentrate on all of the wonderful memories that are mine alone. I will reply to your email soon but I need to take some time to chill. I hope you understand. I am having several friends over tommorow afternoon and we are going to get Patsy and Edina drunk and laugh and cry for my love. He would love that, and is probably pissed as hell that we are going to have a party without him. Please accept my love and thoughts of joy in your direction.
Take care,
Kevin
please forgive my language in this post but i'm at my wits end and pissed as hell.
my name is kevin and my partner who was a poster on this board was jonjonsimons.
today jons dad showed up at our house.
Well this has been an eventful day. I went to the police station to find out how to get a restraining order and got a huge suprise. Jons Dad had already filed a restraining order against ME!! He told the police that I had theatened to harm him, can you beleive this shit? I went ahead and filed the neccesary paperwork because my lawyer advised me to but this is just too way over the top for me.
I'm going to hurt this man. He is the most vile person I have ever seen in my life. Jon told me his family and especially his father was very well respected in the Jehovah Witness church. How in the hell is that possible? These people make no sense to me at all, are they seriously mental or what? Sorry to unload here but none of my friends have had any experience with these people and I don't know where else to turn with this.
Love to all,
Kevin
please forgive my language in this post but i'm at my wits end and pissed as hell.
my name is kevin and my partner who was a poster on this board was jonjonsimons.
today jons dad showed up at our house.
Greetings,
Please forgive my language in this post but I'm at my wits end and pissed as hell. My name is Kevin and my partner who was a poster on this board was jonjonsimons. Today Jons Dad showed up at our house. I was dumbstruck at first because I had never met the man but I knew immediatly who he was because he looks just like Jon only about 20 years older. He didn't even introduce himself to me and I could tell by his attitude that he could barely stand to even look to me. He wanted to know when he could go thru Jons things. I know I just stood there staring at this man with my mouth hanging open. I told him that he should leave and not come back as I had no intention of letting him in our house. He started going on about how Jon was his son, and his flesh and blood and how he was his next of kin, and all this other horseshit about how much of the house did Jon own and was any of the furniture his and shit like that. What is wrong with these people! I mean this man wouldn't even acknowledge Jons existence and now he wanted to come into our house and take his things. He wouldn't get off the porch and I didn't know what to do so I called the police. When they got to the house I showed them a copy of Jons will that cleary showed me as executor and they told his father that he would have to leave or he would be arrested for trespassing. Jon always said that his father might try to pull something like this but I always thought he was just being paranoid. Are these people nuts or something? My husband has been dead for only two days and this man shows up at my door, not to offer help but to demand things he's not entitled to. Is this normal for them to act this way? Jon always said that he never thought about his father and acted like it didn't bother him, but I was there after the phone calls when he would try and call him and he would just get hung up on. I was the one who held him while he cried over it. I know that sometimes families don't get along well, but I just can't understand this. This man treated him like he was dead for 20 fucking years and now he wants something from him??? I know some of you here are former Jehovah Witnesses so I was hoping you could give me some advice or insight into how these people operate or somthing. I'm seriously thinking of getting a restraining order to keep him away from me because if I see him again I'm libel to hurt him. Any advice would be welcome.
Thank you,
Kevin
my name is kevin and i am jon's partner.
jon gave me his password a few weeks ago and asked me to post to the board if something happened to him.
as some of you know jon had been undergoing cancer treatment since the end of july.
Hello again to all,
I wanted to thank each of you for sharing your thoughts of Jon with me. Yesterday I was stunned and blinded and I went into chat here and found comfort. I don't think I can explain how much those of you I spoke with last night helped me. Jon was my love and my heart for 8 years and I'm not sure what will happen next. My faith in God is strong and even though I know he wouldn't agree I went to church today and lit several candles for him.
Right now I'm seriously pissed because Jon's dad called me tonight. Someone at the hospital called him and told him what happened, and he wanted to know what funeral home Jon was at. I would not tell him. Our lawyer, who is a good friend of both of ours advised me that his father can't do anything legally but he is still theatening to try and take Jons body back with him. He doesn't know yet that Jon was cremated this afternoon. Tomorrow I will pick up his remains and per his wishes I will scatter part of his ashes at his mothers grave, and part at his friend Pauls grave. I want to thank all of you who have posted here to let me know that Jon meant something to you. He always had a great spirit, and right now I choose to believe he has become a great spirit.
Jon left me a letter that I found today in our safety deposit box. There was also a letter to Jon from his friend Paul that I didn't know about. Did he happen to mention it to anyone. If it was told to you in confidence that is ok, but I don't want to read it if it's not something I should read. I can't read Jons letter to me yet, but when I can I will try and share it with you all if it's appropriate.
I have felt the love from this website and I want you all to know what it means to me. Jon spoke of several of you so many times, and I just thought how silly to get involved with people over the internet. I was so wrong. You have brought him comfort and joy over the last few months and I can't thank you all enough for that. There are some of you that I would like to address personally now if that is appropriate.
Bea,
Your email touched my soul. Thank you for your kind words and thoughts. Jon told me about you and I thought my God, she's so young to have to deal with all this. If you need my help, or advice from an older friend please email me and let me know. I'm keeping Jons email open because it makes me feel like he is close to me. I know that sounds stupid, but I can't help it.
Tina,
I don't know if you knew that Jon was serious about the Mae West hat. I would like to send it to you. Please email me at Jons addy, i was kind of in a mood this morning and I deleted all of his email. Please send me your address if you are comfortable with that and I promise I will send it to you as soon as I can deal with looking at it. He spoke of you often and always with great admiration. I read the emails you sent to him over the last months and I thank you for being his friend and confidant.
Anastasia/Ana/ladonna,
When Jon first told me he had a cyber friend who was an opera singer I thought, sure you do. Then he made me listen. You have the voice of an angel, and the heart of one as well. I read the last email you sent to Jon and I thank you for being a good enough friend to have sent it. It was something we both needed to hear. I never thought he would die. I thought he would beat the cancer again but I now know that I don't know everything anymore. Your words last night in chat helped more than you will ever know.
Prisca,
When Jon first started posting on this board he told me about a lady he had met from down under who looked just like Sandra Bullock. He was a little naive. When he realized that wasn't really you he was kind of embarrassed but still it was funny as hell. Jon felt an instant connection with you, and now that I have read your words to him from his first post, I know why. Thank you so very much for being his friend.
Dave,
Jon thought you were the absolute bomb. He told me jokingly several times if you were not straight that I would have had some serious competition. Please take that as a compliment, because that is how he meant it. He considered you a friend, and that is not something he took lightly. When i get thru all of Jons things I would like to send you the rough draft of his novel. He told me you had spoken of it with him and I think he would want you to have it. Please let me know if that is ok with you.
JanH,
Thank you for emailing me the transcript of the chat room. Please know that I appreciate it tremendously.
As my love would say if he were still able, peace and love to you and yours,
Kevin
