Faye... I fully understand that. The problem is when you fade you are still playing by "their" rules. Walking on eggshells to not stir the pot. No matter what I think of it or what you or anyone else thinks of "fading" it is a shortsighted solution. Take your stand and don't allow the shunning.
I love my mother dearly. If I had just faded, walked on eggshells to not stir the pot to protect our relationship, she would not be on her journey out of this cult. Instead I made the decision to get completely out and simply do not allow her to shun me. What is your family going to do... call the police to force you off of their property?? Even if your family were to do that... MAKE THEM!!
pbrow