Not sure if I follow you blondie, I certainly do not think of the term born in as a pejorative. It is the only class of jdubs that deserve some pity. Born ins are truly screwed from the start. People may choose to join or leave but the born ins have no choice. They are the only group of dubs that matter.
Cow eyed adults may be further entrenched by goofy acts of defiance but my focus is not on the adults. They have made their choice and are cozy in the bed they have made. Plant the seed in one born in and it is worth it.
pbrow