youtube has a video on subject of shunning, katie kitten summed it up very well:
"Just to make this clear, i am not shunning you & i'm not giving you permission to shun me. so we're not going to play your little JW mind games and say that I made the choice, that I made the decision. if you shun me, YOU are making that choice and i will hold you accountable. JWs is a volunteer organization. So if I see unscriptural wrongdoing and teachings in it then I can unvolunteer myself if I want to. i'm not having you pretending it's my choice, making you the victim. so don't start pointing your finger at me and start your petty JW whining game"
thx doll :).