Almost a year ago I made a few posts here about how much effort I ought to put into getting a man I loved considerably out of the WT. By that point I had already put in a lot of effort and accumulated a nice collection of books on the WT, on cults, on Bible chronology. Then I finally gave up and decided to leave.
We kept in pretty regular touch until last fall, when I moved a neat twelve time zones away. I found out recently that he had gotten married two months ago after a JW-style courtship, though he doesn't yet know that I know. We had talked on Skype two weeks before his wedding. He spoke of his now-wife as one of a handful of JW girls who happened to fancy him at the moment. In our last conversation, I tried to find some change in him that might clue one in that he's newlywed, but there was none. He's finally married to a proper Witness girl, one sharing his goal of eventually serving full-time, and he still won't present himself as married in all spheres of his life.
As someone who has never married before, I'm not sure what constitutes normal newlywed behavior. I've always had the idea that newlyweds are supposed to be quite happy and in love with their new partners, and this phase is supposed to last, say, at least a few months before and after the wedding. What kind of person looks up flights to see a former love who's halfway around the world ("What if I were to fly to -- with a ring and we get married in --?"), two weeks before he's due to wed? Isn't a married man not supposed to have the urge to say "I love you" to an ex mere weeks after his wedding, or at least repress that urge if he has it? Discovering that he got married gave me a moderate shock (though anticlimactic compared to other things I've had to find out on my own, like that he was raised a JW), but he ought to at least be considerate to his wife, if to no one else.
This seems absurd even for a JW marriage.