Posts by LovelyEunie

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

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friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

@AussieOz; it is a shame, isn't it? They had a right to choose to be a part of the WTS, and I have a right to choose not to be a part of it. I shouldn't have to be ostrasized because i don't agree with their teachings, but then again that's how the JWs work. You're just automatically a bad person if you don't agree with their "truth". News Flash: Not everybody is agoing to agree with it, and to everyboady that chose to leave behind that life, they should just realize that that is what they chose to do and they should move on with their lives instead of making it a point to show the world how wrong we are for making that choice and how better our lives would be if we just come back to Jehovah.

Free thinking is a gift from God, not a curse. Maybe they will wise up on that fact one day.

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Is it just human nature to gossip or are JW's worse? Feelings are hurt....

by mamalove in

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friends

it is so strange how once you distance yourself from your kingdom hall and friends, that they find it necesary to discuss and contemplate your departure and put out all kinds of statements that simply are not true.. i am licking my wounds today because some kind of nasty things were said about me to a friend of mine who is df, from her ubber righteous sister.

it was via text, so it was there to read.

the thing i can't figure out is i have nothing to do with this woman.

LovelyEunie

They can go rot somewhere with all that crap, they don't know your life. They feel they have the right to talk about you with their holier than thou logic...I've been where you are and it makes me sick. It's not fair, nobody's talking about them so they should mind their own business...sorry but that's just one of my pet peeves, didn't mean to go off like that :)

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

@Broken Promises, I'm already enrolled in college for next month in a practical work field by today's standards, and should be pretty fun for me since I like technology. I honestly can't wait to start a life from home, and if I could have I would've stayed on campus but my mom wasn't having that, I wouldn't have been able to accompany her to the KH (Ick.). I'd rather stay in a dorm room if it gets me out of going to that place since she won't just take a hint when I try to tell her I don't like it...

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

@Potleg, thanks and I will :) @Tammy: Thank you~ @MrFreeze, thanks again, I will :D Thank you all again~

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Are you a fader, Df'd, DA'd, or Still In?

by brotherdan in

i thought this would be an interesting poll that would show everyone the backgrounds of all of us when we left, if we have.. for myself, i am not df'd, but i am attempting a fade.

i still go to some meetings with the wife to help with kids, but that's it.

no commenting or field service.. what about everyone else?.

LovelyEunie

I'm 18 and still in because my mom still makes me go against my will, but I've been faded since I was 16. If only I could find a way t o get out of going I would fade completely.

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

@MrFreeze I appreciate your concern, and by freedom I only meant celebrating holidays and being my true self (which is bisexual) and not have to be made to feel like the scurge of the earth because I went a minor teaching. I promise I won't do anything reckless, aside from the JW, my mom did pretty good with raising my older sister and me, you don't have to worry~

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

Thanks you all! @ Nice_Dream I'm glad I had the chance to make 'worldly' friends as well, they helped me stop hanging on every word that my mother reported from the KH. If I had've stayed more integrated within the WTS than I currently am ( my mom still makes me go to that wretched place, and I'm might be there in body but my spirit's surely not), I think my mental issues would be worse than they already are. My mom hates it when I lay the blame of my social anxiety and depresson on the JWs too and not just on 'worldy' people, because it's partially, actually MOSTLY, the JW's fault too.

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Why Don't JW Congregations have a Choir?

by journey-on in

even if it were just four or five good singers that practice during the week and get to know the new songbook well, this would benefit the whole congregation.

music is such a vital part of the overall emotional connection to the gathering, a well-rehearsed choir singing along with the congregation would encourage and uplift, don't you think?.

what is the society's reasoning for not doing this?.

LovelyEunie

They probably feel that those with gifted voices will take away due attention from the "main point". Riiight..But i was in a real choir for 4 years in high school, if I chose to sing one of the kingdom melodies with the people who cant read a lick of notes off those pages, Iwould outsing everybody. if I wanted to, never reared enough to do it. although now I might have to try that for the looks I'll get lol

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

Hi all, this is my first post. But I was one of those kids that was born into the whole JW thing, and like a good little witness kid I did everything I was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever). My mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, I was only supposed to associate with other JW kids (my mom is one of those extremist JWs, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude). Yeah, all those kids in the KH were horrible to me, they treated me like I was scum, they chose to basically ignore my existence, and my mom could see that, but since she was comfortable with the KH, I had to suffer while she had all of her good friends around her. Some people on the outside were mean to me but I had better luck with people on the 'outside' than I ever did with people on the 'inside'. But I still tried to be a good little JW kid despite the treatment. I remember this one time I chose to sit in on a valentines day party because I was tired of feeling left out of everything, but when I got home I had to pay the ultimate price with a spanking because ' I allowed myself to be drawn in by satan's crafty acts'. To this day I feel like I didn't deserve to get spanking over that. My mom knew how much of an outcast I was, just being a JW kid just made it worse. Anyway, I think by the time I got to high school is when I began to change. I remember sitting in the KH one sunday, and the topic for the watchtower study was to 'avoid indepentdent thinking'. I couldn't understand why they would tell us that we needed to do this when in the bible it says that God didn't want us to be mindless drones, he wanted us to think and understand things for ourselves, and also that he wanted us to question anything and everything as to gain the proper understanding of things. This is when I started seeing problems with everything. This was when I was beginning to deprogram myself to stop thinking like my mom did on everything (if it's not associated with JW's then it's bad and will be destroyed). There's a bunch of their teachings I strongly disagree with, homosexuality and things they try to teach us young people about going to college, being the main points I hate. But I digress, now I'm 18 and I have been labelled as being a rebellious teen by my mother and other JW relatives because I chose to not be apart of the WTS. I want to have some type of freedom in my life, I want to be able to experience things I was ever allowed to experience because I was always told it's bad in God's eyes. There is more to my story but, what wanted to know is, were there any of you guys who were labelled as having a rebellious spirit because you chose to do your thinking on your own and chose your freedom over having the WTS telling you what you're allowed to think or do when it comes to your life?

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Did you ever find the meetings refreshing?

by highdose in

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friends

i can remember one pompous elder asking me "how can you be depressed after sittiing through such a wonderful meeting?!!".

i only ever felt relief at getting away, what about you?.

LovelyEunie

about time I stopped lurking around here but... the only thing that's refreshing about the meetings is when I take my mom's keys and hi tail it out of there before any of those people try to talk to mee.