Don't ever give up on love. I had for years and had resided myself to the fact that I was going to be alone for the rest of my life. Then, when I least expected it, someone from my past came back into my life. It was my first husband.
My first husband and I had tried two times before to make a go of it. We broke up the first time because he cheated on me. He did it only one time but I, being as hard headed as I was at that young age couldn't forgive him. We had a child together and even though that should have made me try to work things out. I was to pig headed to try, so I left him. We got back together a couple of years later and by this time he had a drinking problem. He was drunk almost every night. We fought a lot and one night it almost came to blows and at that moment I decided to leave again. We lost contact with each other for sixteen years!
I used to blame Hector for most of our problems. Sure, he cheated on me once, but only once. And yes he ended up an alcoholic. BUT, he also had a heart of gold, treated me like a Queen when he was sober, gave me numerous back and foot rubs. Helped me around the house, never let anyone say anything bad about me, but me, being the stubborn person that I am could only see the bad that he did and didn't try to work it out. I ran. It's funny, but I never realized it until years later when I thought it was to late and didn't know where he was to tell him how good he had really been to me.
Fast forward to this January. I was on the computer and I get an IM from my sister. Her message........."I have some news. I don't know if it's good news, but I have some news. Give me a call." So, I call her and ask her what this news is. She said that Hector was there and that he had been looking for us. He just happened to run into a mutual friend of theirs and they told him where she lived and that he had been trying to find us. He gets on the phone and we set up a place to meet and from that day on we have been inseparable. We both got to tell each other how we have both held onto the feelings we both held for each other all these years and I finally got to tell him how sorry I was for not trying to work it out. The good thing is that it wasn't to late and I will never make the same mistake twice. I got a second chance. Thank heavens I'm smart enough to realize that. Also, he hasn't had a drink in over ten years!
So, never give up on love. Even if your wife may not be THE ONE. There is always someone out there who is and it will be when you least expect it. Funny, I never believed that until now. No matter how many times I had been told that.