hi everyone, this is my first post so go easy on me :) i have been a witness all of my life (i'm 37) and truly believed it until 3 years ago.
my husband and i had become spiritually weak and over time i began to question more and more until i came to the conclusion that the witnesses were not the true religion but just one of many religions and that if god is there then there are many paths to get to him.
anyway, i've battled with keeping going as my husband still believed and i didn't want to be in a divided household as we have a young daughter and thought it would be very confusing for her (and us).
Theburstbubble:
My main thing is that I don't want my little girl to be brainwashed the same way as I have been and want her to be in life whatever she wants.
The fact that your child takes priority over the doctrines and policies of other men in itself disqualies you from the JW candidate pool. Outstanding, I already think you're awesome!
hi everyone, this is my first post so go easy on me :) i have been a witness all of my life (i'm 37) and truly believed it until 3 years ago.
my husband and i had become spiritually weak and over time i began to question more and more until i came to the conclusion that the witnesses were not the true religion but just one of many religions and that if god is there then there are many paths to get to him.
anyway, i've battled with keeping going as my husband still believed and i didn't want to be in a divided household as we have a young daughter and thought it would be very confusing for her (and us).
John Aqila:
If there is a God and he is almighty, just, loving, and merciful, you shouldn't have to worry about judgement. If there is no God or he doesn't care, then you shouldn't have to worry either because once we're gone we won't know a thing. So enjoy your life and your family, that's the best thing. Isn't that what the Bible teaches.
Well said!
hi everyone, this is my first post so go easy on me :) i have been a witness all of my life (i'm 37) and truly believed it until 3 years ago.
my husband and i had become spiritually weak and over time i began to question more and more until i came to the conclusion that the witnesses were not the true religion but just one of many religions and that if god is there then there are many paths to get to him.
anyway, i've battled with keeping going as my husband still believed and i didn't want to be in a divided household as we have a young daughter and thought it would be very confusing for her (and us).
TheBurstBubble:
Welcome to the family mostly dedicated to researching and discussing an anti-Org vaccine. As I'm sure you can already tell, you will find no shortage of genuine and compassionate members eager to help and make you feel welcome. You are amongst an online dysfunctional but sincere family of sorts. Enjoy!
let me start off by saying i do not presume to have the answers, i am merely offering advice.. i will preface this posting with this, cutting a long story short:.
my sister was raped by a popular jw lad wh's dad happen to be a rock star elder.
in the attempt to fight him off his face was covered with scratches and it was reported to the police ( instead of rape he was sentenced on the lesser charges of sexual battery and assault) but he confessed to having violent, consentual sex.
Giordano
Enjoyed your observations greatly. And your sister how did she fare?
Londo111I agree that the younger a person can wake up and become independent the better of they will be, especially before getting dunked. Unfortunately, not everyone is as fortunate. Many wake up in midlife and sometimes later, and by then, they are deeply enmeshed with their social network of friends and family. It’s not as easy for these to step away. There is not a simple one-size-fits-all path for everyone who wakes up.
umbertoecho
A very interesting account and well said. I didn't consider your' first post to be smug although some here have endured a lot of grief in gaining mental and emotional freedom.
Thank you for the clarifications though
Thank you. I throughly enjoy reading your postings and you do so much for this community. In my short time here it has occurred to me that you are without question one of the corner stones of the community.
PaintedToeNail
SSC- Your account of life growing up in apartheid South Africa is riveting. Many years ago, I remember hearing an experience at the KH that told of the Borg in SA. Of course that example indicated that all the brothers loved each other equally regardless of their race, it was the secular authorities who wouldn't let them all associate with each other...it sounds like they didn't want to associate with each other in the first place.
I'm pleased you found it interesting, thank you. As far as black and white JWs being together at KImgdom Halls went, I had heard of accounts where this happened but never personally witnessed any. The only time I ever saw all races together were at assemblies. I have no idea how the black JWs felt about their white brothers and sisters, but other than my father I never met a single white JW who ever spoke respectfully or kindly of the black brothers and sisters. I'm sure there were some, I just never met them.
P.S. Sorry about the dislike, I meant to hit like but again my sausage fingers messed up on my small iPhone.
there are a lot of things that make me have days like this, the utter embarrassment of being are part of a cult that protects child abusers, that enforces emotional brutality through shunning, and that lies constantly.
the lying i can tolerate, the world is built on bullshit, i have a high lie tolerance.
i can ignore it if it has no effect on me etc.
Steve2:7 minutes ago
Everyone who comes to realize TTATT has one thing on their side that JWs believe they themselves don't have: time.
Great point Steve, I had never considered that.
the past week has been hell for me.
my mother started feeling ill and we went to seek medical assistance.
we live in the mountains and the nearest large hospital is about 150 kms away.
BRAVO SIR!! You are a hero and hopefully an inspiration and example of common sense to those on the fence about accepting blood transfusions.
Typical Org, "Do what we say or face a JC. Oh what's that you can't afford it? Well youll have to pray and figure it out. Oh she's dying? That's ok if you both stay in the truth you'll reunite in Paradise, don't worry about it, think of what a glorious moment it will be when the two of you reunite!"
So happy you persisted and she changed her mind! I crave positive stories with a powerful lesson!
there are a lot of things that make me have days like this, the utter embarrassment of being are part of a cult that protects child abusers, that enforces emotional brutality through shunning, and that lies constantly.
the lying i can tolerate, the world is built on bullshit, i have a high lie tolerance.
i can ignore it if it has no effect on me etc.
FMF:
You're a good guy and you certainly don't deserve being stuck between a rock and a hard place. I hope things don't stay this way for you much longer.
let me start off by saying i do not presume to have the answers, i am merely offering advice.. i will preface this posting with this, cutting a long story short:.
my sister was raped by a popular jw lad wh's dad happen to be a rock star elder.
in the attempt to fight him off his face was covered with scratches and it was reported to the police ( instead of rape he was sentenced on the lesser charges of sexual battery and assault) but he confessed to having violent, consentual sex.
I don't have anything to do with them but I wouldn't put the phone down on them if they contacted me because they may want to leave the cult one day. There is little chance of this but they know where I am.
Completely understand and I feel the same way.
My life is good. When I left I got my degree and eventually a job I like. My daughter is an intelligent, ethical, compassionate young woman of twenty now, free to enjoy her life without cult influences. She is enjoying university and we have a great time travelling to different countries together.
That's fantastic, it gives me a big ol' grin inside and outside!
not sure if anything will come of this.
but i signed it.. https://www.change.org/p/united-states-attorney-general-investigate-the-watchtower-society-of-jehovah-s-witnesses-re-child-sexual-abuse?recruiter=363165656&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink.
let me start off by saying i do not presume to have the answers, i am merely offering advice.. i will preface this posting with this, cutting a long story short:.
my sister was raped by a popular jw lad wh's dad happen to be a rock star elder.
in the attempt to fight him off his face was covered with scratches and it was reported to the police ( instead of rape he was sentenced on the lesser charges of sexual battery and assault) but he confessed to having violent, consentual sex.
millie21019 minutes ago
You have lived a life that is unique in many ways SSC.
I enjoy hearing about it and seeing things from your perspective.
I think of us ex JWs as being a rare group. Touchy, sensitive, beautiful, wise and all at different stages.
Thank you millie, I enjoy your perspective very much myself as I do just about everyone's on this forum. I've learned a boatload in the short time I've been part of this community. Thank you everyone!
If the rest of the world is like a piano or maybe an organ, than we are like the carillion bells of humanity.
I love it!
